(Closed) my one and only shower was a heartbreak

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“Except…very few people came, and by that I mean, my mom invited well over 100 people and about 20 came. “

 

I am so sorry you are hurt! 

Are all 100+ ladies invited to the wedding as well? 

What percent were out of towners?

Did you have RSVP for the shower?

Post # 4
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1736 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so sorry, OP. I know that there isn’t much that can be said or done after the fact…I wish you had been made to feel more special at your shower and I’m sorry that your poor Mom went through all the trouble of hosting what should have been such a wonderful gathering and has been so hurt at the lack of response. ๐Ÿ™ Chin up…the best day is yet to come and it will be all you hoped for and more!

Post # 5
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Did you not require RSVPs?  How did you end up catering for 80?

I’m sorry it wasn’t what you hoped it would be.  

Post # 6
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sorry it wasn’t what you thought it would be! ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 7
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry. ๐Ÿ™  How many RSVPed?

Post # 9
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This seems terrible, But I too am interested in how many rsvped and are all these woman invited to your wedding? This seems really odd.

 

Post # 10
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2603 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wait, are your mom’s church friends also invited to the wedding? Or just the shower? If they WERE invited to the wedding but the the wedding is Out of Town and a lot of people weren’t going to make it, it wouldn’t shock me that those who weren’t attending the main event declined the shower.

 

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m really sorry this happened.  I know in a prevous thread you said you were worried about your shower and the people attending.  It’s terrible that these people obviously have no tact and are so rude (I mean, saying they hope they can get out of there quickly?  Did they only come for the meal? Ugh).  ๐Ÿ™

I say vent away on here, grab a bottle of wine, hop into a bubble bath, and try to forget about it.  These ladies obviously don’t care about anyone but themselves, and unfortunately there is nothing you can do to change that.

((Hugs))

Post # 12
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry it waant what you exPected. Just curious though, you said your mom wanted it aGreer church with her fiends. I can’t imagine too many of myminds friends caring about my shower. Also, we’re all these people invited to the wedding? A lot ofpeople may have felt it rude if they were invited to the shower and not the wedding. 

Post # 13
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5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@BothCoasts:  I agree. Were these 100 people also invited to the wedding?

If not, then I fully understand why they didn’t attend your shower. Personally, I would not attend a shower for a bride whose wedding I was not invited to.

Post # 14
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry!

Post # 15
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1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would be thoroughly pissed that people talked to me like that. If I were you, I would have opened that one guest’s gift right then and there so she could leave. Get out, if you don’t want to be here. At least you seemed to handle it with grace. I’m so sorry it was a terrible shower for you. Maybe you can have a smaller one just for your friends? If not, then try not to worry about it. Your wedding will be here next month, and at least you have that to look forward to!

Post # 16
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ames, if that is the case – the majority of these ladies are not also wedding guests, then that is your answer.  Showers are only for guests of the wedding. 

If not, it looks kind of gift grabby.  If she wanted to have a party with her girlfriends and to show off her daughter, then she should have done that and invited you.

BUT I didn’t want to say it bluntly until you gave us the answer on that.

 

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