My One Wedding Regret is Killing Me!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

OH man! Perhaps you can write your feelings to them in the thank you card?

You must have had a big wedding, no?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding is still a month away so I can’t speak from experience but I agree with Mrs.Argentina, I think you can just include a little note in your thanks you to let them know you are sorry you weren’t able to speak with them more but were so glad they were able to attend.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I think it depends on the size of the wedding…I would just write them nice thank you cards or try to get together with them over the next few weeks. Or give them a call and say thank you again πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

did you have a big rehearsal dinner? maybe you got to talk to some of your people then?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had a huge wedding so I did a receiving line as my guests went from the cocktail hour into the reception room. I didn’t go around from table to table because I saw so many brides before me do this and never get the enjoy themselves at their own wedding. If you had fun and were happy that is what guests will remember and if you feel badly you could always make a little note on the thank you notes and mention that it meant so much for them to be there and you wish you could have spent a little more time together.

I have run into the feeling of regret and started to have it at my wedding. I bought an extra hour and during that last hour everyone started to get really tired and started to leave. I felt horrible and that noone had fun at my wedding. But when we watched the video I saw how crazy the wedding way and how much people were dancing and then I also noticed how many people were still there for our final dance, I guess it just felt like everyone left. Watch you video and look at your pictures and remember that high feeling and how many smiles there were at your wedding.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We were at a wedding of over 200 and I think when you go to a wedding that big you don’t expect a lot of one on one time.  I echo what others have said…just make a point of saying something in the thank you card to the people who travelled that you didn’t get to see. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@sacrednerve: I definitely wasn’t able to talk to everyone who came to my wedding. Mine was delayed about 15 minutes due to rain. And afterwards we took 1 hour for photos before we went to the reception (this was planned). So when we got in, I’m almost certain that a few people Out of Town had already left. I’m glad they were able to come, but I’m so sad I didn’t get to say hello!

We didn’t have a receiving line. I’ve never heard of those until I started planning. But we did try to visit each table, which was harder than we thought. With all of the reception “events” we were always pulled away from the tables to dance, cut the cake, take pictures, etc. I feel awful! But I was determined to enjoy my reception: I wanted to get on the dance floor and have a good time! Because of that, I wasn’t able to talk to everyone! But I know they were thankful to come, have good food, and at least talk to friends while they were there.

In fact, I don’t even know the total count of guests I had. I keep thinking that people may have came… but I missed them. There is no real way for me to know unless they call me and say they came. Not everyone did our guest tree, and since we didn’t get to every table, I have no clue who came and who didn’t. Oopsy πŸ™

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Mrs. Meowerson: Of course I did RSVPs. But that doesn’t mean that the people who said they were coming actually came. The same with the people who said they weren’t coming… or didn’t respond to the RSVP. I saw two people who didn’t RSVP at all. I know people who came because I either saw them, they did my guest tree, or gave a gift.

@sacrednerve: Yea, I tried to stop dancing a few times to talk to more people who were just staring at us from their seats. But that still didn’t cover everyone! πŸ™

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m so glad I’m not the only bee who missed some of her guests!  I tried to talk with everyone, but I didn’t get a chance to speak to everyone before dinner, and after dinner we started dancing (because if the bride & groom don’t start dancing, no one will start).  I didn’t even think about the guests that would leave before we cut the cake, like some of our older relatives.  If I could do it over, I’d make it a priority to see our older guests first, thinking they’ll leave sooner, and mingle with the younger guests as the evening goes on.  I feel so guilty, as I know there’s a few people I didn’t even see!  I second the PP suggestion of writing a heartfelt thankyou note, but I’m sure your guests will understand what a busy day it was for you guys.  πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@kperry3:Don’t feel bad for this – same thing happened to us a couple of weekends ago when we got married.  We had 260 people at our wedding and I know we didn’t get to speak to everyone. There simply wasn’t time between all of the cake cutting, photos, etc.  People will understand and appreciate a nice thank you note where you can say that you wished you would have had more time to visit, etc., like the others have said.  Congrats on getting married!!  It’s wonderful and we’ve only been married about 2 weeks.  πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

If this your one big wedding regret, please count yourself lucky. No, I am not discounting what you feel but if you’ve been on the bee for a while, you hear horrendous stories. Mine was, my MUA came ONE HOUR LATE. For a couple of weeks after my wedding, it BURNED ME. I will go to sleep thinking of it and it would be one of the first thoughts when I woke up. It’s been 7 weeks now and I swear, I don’t even think on it at all anymore πŸ™‚

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