(Closed) My parents 30th wedding anniversary is the same week of my wedding…..

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll: What should i do to acknowledge my parents 30th wedding anniversary
    Invite them to have their own dance (like a first dance) with a song they played at their wedding? : (23 votes)
    70 %
    Mention it in my speech : (10 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 2
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    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    whitebridetobee :  i think you can make it a part of your wedding, if you want you can also make your future DH’s dad’s passing part of things.

    my dh’s grandfather passed very close to our wedding. we worked a few little things about us as a couple knowing him into the ceremony even though dh’s mom was the only member of his family present. she DEFINITELY appreciated it and was very touched. we made it happy and light, about his humor and how much we loved him and how much he loved us and his wife (still alive) and then moved on into the rest of the ceremony/vows. 

    i vote say something about your guy’s dad in the ceremony and then honor your parents in the reception with their own dance. that way everyone is happy and no one feels slighted. 

    Post # 3
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    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I would talk to them about the dance, that’s not something I’d want to spring on them as a surprise.

    You could also have a small cake (like 2-person sized) that you bring out to them and give a short speech congratulating them and (if actually true) how much their marriage has inspired you, how they’ve been good role models for your own relationship, etc.

    I think it’s lovely that two big relationship celebrations are occurring so closely together in your family! 

    Post # 4
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    6276 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Can you do both? Ask them if they like those ideas. I think they are lovely.  

    Post # 5
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    1958 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    My grandparents celebrated their anniversary the day after we got married. I gave them my bouquet during our speech. We pulled my grandad (in a wheelchair) to the front of the room so that “he could hear better”. After Darling Husband had thanked everyone for coming and the bridesmaids, best man, etc I said we were fortunate because all the couples in the room had helped us understand the vows we were making (we had someone who was recently widowed so I was trying to capture the whole thing) and we realised that this marriage would take hard work, love and a little bit of luck. So going forward what better as a lucky charm than grandparents celebrating 50+ years and so we would like to give them my bouquet to recognise this. We didn’t tell my grandparents about this so it was a surprise for them but we did check with a few people that we weren’t going to upset anyone else (the other grandparents who weren’t getting the bouquet or the person who had been recently widowed) and everyone was fine with it.

    If your worried about your Future Mother-In-Law just ask her privately. If she minds, just respect her wishes and do something privately with your parents on their actual anniversary.

    Post # 6
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    1597 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I think ask your parents how, and if, they want it to be acknowledged. My dad would straight up disown me if I made him the centre of attention at a big event like a wedding. 

    Post # 7
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    41 posts
    Newbee

    loz24 :  that is such a lovely thing to have done! 

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