Post # 1
My parents 30th wedding anniversary is the same week of my wedding (a few days before).
Should i acknowledge this at the wedding? If so how? In a speech? Getting them to do a ‘anniversary dance’?
My partners dad has passed so i dont know if this is something that is not right?
Post # 2
whitebridetobee : i think you can make it a part of your wedding, if you want you can also make your future DH’s dad’s passing part of things.
my dh’s grandfather passed very close to our wedding. we worked a few little things about us as a couple knowing him into the ceremony even though dh’s mom was the only member of his family present. she DEFINITELY appreciated it and was very touched. we made it happy and light, about his humor and how much we loved him and how much he loved us and his wife (still alive) and then moved on into the rest of the ceremony/vows.
i vote say something about your guy’s dad in the ceremony and then honor your parents in the reception with their own dance. that way everyone is happy and no one feels slighted.
Post # 3
I would talk to them about the dance, that’s not something I’d want to spring on them as a surprise.
You could also have a small cake (like 2-person sized) that you bring out to them and give a short speech congratulating them and (if actually true) how much their marriage has inspired you, how they’ve been good role models for your own relationship, etc.
I think it’s lovely that two big relationship celebrations are occurring so closely together in your family!
Post # 4
Can you do both? Ask them if they like those ideas. I think they are lovely.
Post # 5
My grandparents celebrated their anniversary the day after we got married. I gave them my bouquet during our speech. We pulled my grandad (in a wheelchair) to the front of the room so that “he could hear better”. After Darling Husband had thanked everyone for coming and the bridesmaids, best man, etc I said we were fortunate because all the couples in the room had helped us understand the vows we were making (we had someone who was recently widowed so I was trying to capture the whole thing) and we realised that this marriage would take hard work, love and a little bit of luck. So going forward what better as a lucky charm than grandparents celebrating 50+ years and so we would like to give them my bouquet to recognise this. We didn’t tell my grandparents about this so it was a surprise for them but we did check with a few people that we weren’t going to upset anyone else (the other grandparents who weren’t getting the bouquet or the person who had been recently widowed) and everyone was fine with it.
If your worried about your Future Mother-In-Law just ask her privately. If she minds, just respect her wishes and do something privately with your parents on their actual anniversary.
Post # 6
I think ask your parents how, and if, they want it to be acknowledged. My dad would straight up disown me if I made him the centre of attention at a big event like a wedding.
Post # 7
loz24 : that is such a lovely thing to have done!
Post # 8
mrshomemaker : that sounds so lovely. i def will check, i dont think she would have a problem with it or say no. I just think i should acknowledge my partners dad too.
Post # 9
TravelingBride31 : i will try to suss them out. If they dont want to dance i def think giving them a cake is such a great idea! I could give them a speech about how much they inspire me as a couple….which is true. Being in a relationship i definetly respect the way they communicate and respect eachother.
Post # 10
misskate18 : yes this was what i was worried about haha. I was even thinking to start them off with their dance and then invite all the couples in the room to come up, to take the pressure off them.