Post # 1
My parents are paying for everything….and I mean everything. Nice, right?? NO! I’m so uncomfortable with this. I’m being frugal as much as I possibly can, obsessing over prices and sales and trying cut corners everywhere. My fiance’s parents have no money to offer and I lost my job last June and have not been able to find a new career that will support my bills and mortgage. My fiance is having work issues, in particular not being paid for actually working! So, I feel ike crap for not being able to contribute a few thousand for my dress, flowers, etc….I hate this! It’s making me not even want a ceremony or reception at all. I feel like I’m using my parents hard earned money for one day…sigh, I’m stressed and need a good job!
Post # 3
@TheFutureMrsLamkin: I completely understand how you feel. I relocated to another town to be with Fiance and since have had a difficult time finding a job with my degree (Merchandise Marketing) without having to commute gobs! So, in the meantime I’ve started buying/selling clothing on eBay to make some extra money and it helps. So perhaps you could find something just to tide you over until you find something more substanital because, at least it’s something right?
That’s great that your mom wants to help, you should let her. I’m sure she gave you a budget and as long as you don’t go over she will be so proud that she was able to provide that big day for you. She wants to do it, so let her. It’s okay. It shouldn’t make you feel bad, you didnt put a gun to her head. She loves you and wants to show you that in this way by offering to pay for your wedding and thats great that she is ready and willing to help with open arms for your wedding, embrace it and involve her in the process and I think you may find yourself enjoying the moments with your mom and focusing less on “how much you’re spending of her money”. I Hope This Helps even though I know it can be hard.
Post # 4
i think its great that you are being savy on prices but maybe this is something your folks have always wanted to do for you – you are their daughter so as long as they are not putting demands on you then i think you should try to relax and accept it with the love they are giving it to you with
i know when my niece one day announces she will be getting married we will happily writing out a cheque because we love her and she has been a joy to our lives – you support the people you love and are proud of
goodluck with the job hunt – it will happen!
Post # 5
I was having major guilt over the costs. I kept asking about budgets and how much they wanted to spend to avoid going over. I was starting to really freak out, but our lists kept getting bigger and bigger. I finally decided that if they weren’t worried I shouldn’t worry. Every now and then I have to remind myself to just let it go.
Post # 6
what i do is go order/purchase whatever i really want, then pay the difference to make myself feel better and THEN give my parents the invoices. also paying for my own makeup trials etc. just little things to make myself better.
I find a lot of vendors understand, my flowers lady thinks its hilarious that im so worried abuot making them pay for pricey flowers so she rewrote the whole quote to make it look like that $300 that i paid never existed. 🙂