Post # 1
I wanted to have no flowers at all. My fiance feels strongly, so we agreed on bouquets for me and the bridesmaids, nothing else. My parents think my mother should have a corsage as well as grandmothers, godmothers, and other “special people.” My parents gave me a wedding gift of cash (were going to do it after the wedding, but I have had some cuts at work and was going to have to make some cuts including cutting the people they wanted, so they gave me the “wedding gift” early, which is enough to cover most but not all the wedding since we are really watching the budget.) My feeling is I have already compromised, and if the groom doesn’t have a boutoneire, no one outside the wedding party needs flowers either. Opinions please!
Post # 3
what if you went to the grocery store or sam’s and made really simple hand tied bouquets for them?
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
You could just give the special people single flowers – it’s cheaper and then they don’t have to wear a corsage all night (personally, I hate them!:-))
Post # 5
I honestly do not think that anyone will notice that someone does not have flowers on their chest or in their hands! We are having the BMs carry bouquets but that is all we are doing. To me, the flowers are not a major priority in the budget. Its probably upsetting that your parents list got cut back but obviously its their friends before yours.
As far as their say, it should only be an opinion, not a deciding factor. If that money was a gift, it should come with no strings attached.
Post # 6
I’m with you on this one. We have no bridal party and Fiance doesn’t want to wear a bout so I’m the only one having flowers.If you want to keep it minimal then keep it that way, your parent’s need to understand that this is your wedding, not theirs.
Post # 7
I have to make 10 boutenierre’s yikes, it would have been more if I added in-laws oh well they’ll have to do without
I have a big family
Post # 8
I went to a wedding once where the bridesmaids carried super cute clutch style purses instead of flowers and it looked fabulous!
Post # 9
what about non-traditional boutonnieres like felt or paper? You could certainly make them and that way cut down the cost but still give something to those people who matter.
Post # 10
I am working 50-60 hours a week and planning the wedding in a total of 4 months, mostly be myself. I don’t have time to make them. I don’t care enough to spend our money to make them. i feel like if my parents want that, they can do the arranging and paying for it. Am I wrong? (My mother keeps saying she will help, but when I give her things, they don’t get done. She only wants to “help” when it is extra stuff that she wants but isn’t necessary and I don’t care about.)
Post # 11
One option we considered doing for bouts & corsages was just to order them from a grocery store’s florist section — I think this is a pretty cheap option (like maybe $5 to $10 per bout) and you can just call in a couple weeks before and give them the colors you want.
My groom was actually the one who suggested this option — he got his corsages from grocery store florists for all his high-school dances, I think! And he was all about the easiest, cheapest, most practical option for wedding planning, so I think this actually might be the kind of task you could delegate to your groom or your parents, if it’s really important to them.
I totally get what you’re saying about feeling like your parents are trying to take over your wedding, but I also think bouts/corsages for grandparents, etc. are the kind of thing that make people in your family feel special, so it might be worth $100 and a call to the grocery store.
Post # 12
They’re really cheap if you go through a grocery store instead of a florist. Those can totally be picked up morning of. Personally, I think that bouts and corsages make the important people stand out more, and if the people who are most important to you really want them, it’s a really small thing in the grand scheme of a wedding.
Post # 13
i think it’s nice to have something special to honor parents/grandparents. they’re the people who are always there for you, they deserve to be recognized.
Post # 14
I second the single flower idea- one rose (bought in bulk at Costco, etc), with a ribbon tied around it is really elegant!
Post # 15
Keep it simple! Your mom wants them so she can feel obviously honored along with some other important family members. I told my mom I could care less about the corsages (i didn’t feel like making them along with all my other flowers) so it was up to her to make them to HER liking. It worked out well. What about handing out single roses to the important poeple during the ceremony? We did flowers for our mothers and it was really sweet without being all “bam in your face” with the corsage.