- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
Grrr. So my dad is super under my skin. I called him this morning to say hello (things have been going well lately, ya know? He’s been laying off the preaching for the most part) and he told me to be sure I don’t “fatten up” my mom when she comes to town next week (for eye surgery/thanksgiving). I rolled my eyes and told him not to worry, that even when I cook things like pizza, it’s really actually healthy for you. I actually am planning on using her visit to help teach her about healthier cooking—brown rice, marinating meats, grilling, steaming, using seasonings (not butter), etc. Then he was going on and on about how awesome he and mom are doing on their diet. Basically he’s skipping breakfast and lunch, eating protein bars and teeny little portions (sounds like, max, 700 calories a day), and once a week pigging out on Mexican food and margaritas!
Now, my dad HAS lost a bunch of weight in the last few years. So apparently it’s working for him. We’ve had the ‘discussion’ of calories and whole foods (me) versus quantity of food (him.). I say it’s calories and WHAT you eat, he says it’s just volume and you should shrink your stomach down. Basically, he’d rather eat half a sandwich that has bacon, turkey, mayo, cheese, etc on it, and I’d rather have a whole wheat sandwich minus the bacon and subbing mustard for mayo with a side salad drizzled with vinegar. He says his way is better and is always encouraging me to eat less (saying I should skip breakfast, “do you really need to eat that?” comments, telling me something is fattening when I KNOW it’s not, or saying “wow you eat a lot”—it’s about 5 smaller meals a day). He told me a few months ago that if i lost 30 pounds, i’d look really good. Um, i do not have 30 pounds to lose!
Currently I eat about 1,500-2,000 calories a day, hardly any processed foods, and I try to balance my fat, carbs, and protein. I lift weights, do cardio, and switch up my work out routines but stopped being a maniac about it after I got married. My dad lifts weight and does a Treadclimb every day. But I’ve been trying to get him and mom to eat healthier (they douse EVERYTHING in butter and lots of sauces) and they both have high cholesterol (they take tablets). They smoke, too.
Anyways, we’re going to Jamaica with them in February and my dad wants to “compete” with me about who’s in better shape and he’s really being an ass about it. He wants to go for a run on the beach with me now and see who’ll make it farther (that’s a joke—my dad can’t run!). He’s been known to stand next to you and comment about how good of shape he’s in compared to you. I’m in good shape, but I’m the first to admit I’m a little squishy around the middle. I’m not fitness model material, but hell, who is?!
Anyways…I don’t think I’m looking for any bit of advice. I just wanted to crab and bitch about how my dad thinks his way is so awesome, when in reality, it’s the worst way to approach a healthy lifestyle. What irritates me the most is it apparently works. Oh i’m also not too thrilled about being told not to “fatten up” my mom or being constantly told by my dad “i’m in better shape than you!”. wtf?
Anybody else’s parents have some messed up viewpoints of eating/exercise and being healthy in general? It makes me want to bang my head against a wall.