(Closed) Parents plan a retirement party the day of our move!!! Wouldnt you be mad?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

sorry, but if they did this all the time, you should expect it.

personally, i would not go, or even make an attempt to go. since she scheduled the date after knowing the date you were busy.  if she expects you to be there.  you can tell them, sorry you already have plans.  if they miss you, maybe they will consider the date the next time.


Post # 5
11736 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why can’t you just move the day before or day after?  Sorry, as annoying as it is they’re schedule for the same day, I wouldn’t miss my dad’s retirement party. I think you’ll regret not going more than you’ll regret switching your moving date.  They’re really under no obligation to plan a party around your schedule, and likewise you aren’t obligated to schedule your life around their party, but conflicts happen sometimse. You just have to roll with it.

Post # 6
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had a work party to go to the day DH and I moved into our new house, I just showed up for an hour or two and then left after eating so we could work on moving.  I think a parent’s retirement party is even more important than the little work party I had, so if I were you, I would definitely try to at least go to some of the party if at all possible.

Post # 8
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your house isn’t going anywhere. Why can’t you just move a diffeent day? Or attend the party for a little while any move the rest of the day. I don’t see how this is a big deal. Not everyone is going to plan around you all the time. 

Post # 10
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@sweetchiquita12:  If someone called and asked me (even in a roundabout way) when I was doing something important and then I found out the next day that they planned something else important on that same day, that is what I would think for sure.

It doesn’t have to be a bad thing, maybe they just want to hang out with their friends?

Post # 11
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Maybe they did it on purpose because they don’t want you to come or don’t want you all to stay.  Maybe they want to be crazy at the retirement party with their friends and are glad you have another obligation so you are unlikely to attend or stay and judge them.

I wouldn’t spend a lot of time being upset about this.

Post # 13
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I find it a little odd that they picked that day, especially if they knew you’d be moving.  Oh well, a party is only a party…unless there will be someone there you won’t see any time in the near future, then don’t sweat not going.

Post # 14
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d go to the retirement party and just bump the move by a day.  Not a huge deal.

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