(Closed) My parents still have up my ex’s pictures

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I think you should just be honest with them and let them know that it makes you uncomfortable and you are afraid it will make your Fiance uncomfortable as well.  I would think they would be very understanding of that.

Post # 4
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Tell them how it makes you feel…and maybe give them a framed copy of your most recent “solo” picture. = )

Post # 5
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah, I agree with HisBarista – give them a copy of a nice pic of you, and maybe a nice small picture album.  Discuss this with them, and maybe they’ll agree to move the photos into the new album instead – that way they still have them, they just aren’t as obvious.   Good luck!

Post # 6
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

My dad had a hard time “letting go” of my ex.  Or the idea of him.  Or something.  See, I’m very good at getting my family to like people, so of course they adored my (total jerk) ex-boyfriend.  When I decided to break up with them, they had a hard time letting go of the future they pictured (MY future!).  I told them that was just NOT every going to happen and I wanted them to “erase” him so to speak.  No more pictures, no more talking about him, NADA.  They got the (not so subtle) hint.

And now they adore my Darling Husband and would never mention (jerk) ex-bf anyway.  So I would just talk to them about it.  (Although you are kind of sending mixed messages considering even YOU are still friends with him…)

Post # 7
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with previous posters, but will add…if your parents are resistant to it because those are the only pictures of you from the last how many years, you can request that they atleast take them down when you visit. Plus they should have some new pictures to put up soon with the wedding right?!

Post # 9
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

My parents had pics of all my hs boyfriends up while I was in college, and one visit home I was just really blunt with my mom – “It’s weird that those are there. I know you like them because they’re from dances and stuff, but … I’m seeing someone else now. It’s just strange.”

She took them down ASAP.

Post # 10
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My husband’s mom had pictures of him and his ex-girlfriend up at their house the first time I met them.  I don’t think he even knew they were there.

I think what did the trick was when I saw them, I did a double take, and his mom kind of froze.  The next time I went to visit them with him they’d replaced the pictures with others, mostly new ones of me and him that she’d taken on our first visit or that we’d sent her (they live a few hours away). 

Luckily we never had to say anything about it.  If I were in your shoes, I’d just mention that it would make you and your fiance feel uncomfortable and that maybe you could all work on getting new pictures to replace them. 

Good luck!

Post # 11
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think that you need to get them some new photos of you, both alone and with your new fiance, and stat. If they’re hanging onto pictures that are history, it sounds like they are sentimental. Don’t ask them to take something sentimental away without offering anything to replace it. Then you’ll have a much better case for asking them to change the pictures rather than asking them to just take them down.

Post # 13
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

give them a nice framed photo of you and your fiance and then ask! this is like a band aid, just rip it off!

Post # 14
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are they just random pictures of you and your ex together or are they really old prom type pictures?

The only pics my parents have up of any of my exes are prom pics and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. 

If that isn’t the case, then I would ask them to take them down in respect of your FH and then I would send them new pics of you and your FH.

Post # 15
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would just ask them to take the pictures down- they have no reason not to respect that wish.

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