Post # 1
I am ready to propose to my girlfriend of 2 years, we’re both 26. I’ve been looking at rings and I know I want to get it from Tiffany. The size I can afford for this style is around .7 carats.
I talked to my parents about my plans and they insisted on helping with the cost (they are very comfortable financially), as they know me and my Girlfriend want a small intimate wedding we would like to pay ourselves. I don’t know if it’s wrong to accept their generous offer, they told me this would be out of the college fund I never used since I was able to get a full ride. If they helped me out I could get a much bigger diamond (2 ct) which I know she would love (not that she cares that much about the ring or its price or size).
This is the style I chose:
Post # 2
I don’t think it’s wrong to accept. Make sure you get that thing insured!
Post # 3
I mean, as long as they don’t hold it over your head. Or some how use it against you, why not?
If your engagment isn’t a total surprise, I’d see what your girlfriend thinks. Some women get upset when they find out their fiance didn’t soley pay for their engagement ring.
GL and congrats!
Post # 4
I wouldn’t have been okay with dh doing that. To me, there’s just something really special about knowing he got me my ring all on his own. But I’m sure you’ll find opinions all over the place!
Post # 5
That’s entirely up to you. There is no right or wrong decision in terms of accepting a gift. You are in the best position to understand the nature of the relationship, if it might come with strings, how your girlfriend might feel etc.
I know men who wanted to do it on their own and others who had help, either financial or in the form of an heirloom. Either way, your parents are generous to offer.
Personally, I feel anyone who does a bit of homework can do far better price-wise on stones that are comparable in specs to Tiffany’s.
Post # 6
Why do you want to buy it from Tiffany? Their rings are ridiculously overpriced for the quality of the stone(s). You could afford a much nicer ring on your own if you go elsewhere.
Post # 7
I don’t see why not! Especially given that it’s money they saved for your college fund.
Post # 8
The more important questions are
Does your gf like that particular ring? Does she want a Tiffany ring? Does she want a 2 carat? Is that ring set low enough to be comfortable for everyday wear?
You may think she doesn’t care, but I guarantee you she does.
I’m not a fan of halos or emerald cuts, and I prefer to support independent businesses. What does your gf like? Would she rather have that money go towards the wedding? Or as a cash wedding gift?
A 2 carat Tiffany ring costs the same as a car. I’d rather take the car.
Don’t ask us. Ask your gf. If you’re going to get married, you have to be able to talk about money and life choices.
Post # 9
OP, this is why you don’t buy from Tiffany or Cartier unless you are super wealthy:
And that being said, the super wealthy don’t buy from Tiffany. They know better.
Post # 10
weddingmaven : zl27 :
It has a lot of family history since my dad and my grandpa proposed to my mom and grandma with a Tiffany ring. Also, I know it’s her dream to have a Tiffany ER.
It’s non-negotiable for me, even though I know there are much cheaper alternatives out there.
she has mentioned she’d love it to be from Tiffany, and this exact style is all over her Pinterest. A while ago she did say that if a Tiffany ring was not something I could afford, she’d like a 2 carat moissanite equivalent, so I’m pretty sure she feels comfortable with that size.
Thankfully she has given enough hints for me to know what she’d like, instead of having a big conversation about it and ruin the surprise!
Post # 11
I would maybe talk about whether she’s ok with you getting help from your parents. She might feel weird about it and feel like you guys are in some kind of debt to your folks. Also, are your parents the type to hold this over your head potentially?
Post # 12
knowing her I don’t think she would mind.
No, my parents would definitely not do that, they really want to do this since they won’t be paying for our wedding and they feel like helping out in this is a special way of contributing. I’m really leaning towards accepting their offer right now
Post # 13
I wouldnt want my boyfriend to accept his parents money. The point is for him to have earned it himself
Post # 14
If this were an heirloom, no one would bat an eye. Likewise if they were helping with the cost of the wedding. That being said, checking their website, the cost of that ring, going from .7 to 2 carats increases conservatively from about 10K to 60K.
Post # 15
If you are sure that your parents won’t hold it over your head, I would go for it! Another poster made a good point, is she ok with this amount of money being spent on a ring? If so, go ahead and accept and get her that dream ring. Many people put value on completely different things. My husband spent $33k on my ring, I drive a car worth probably $7k at this point, I am happy with that, cars are not important but my engagement ring is something I treasure and will treasure until I die (sorry if that’s morbid!) I know other people would rather have a new car so to each their own. Keep us posted on the purchase and proposal!!!