(Closed) My parish closed, finding new Church and church for ceremony?? HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We don’t have a connection to a parish – we are just coming back to the Church.  So we are having our paperwork done at the closest parish to us, and picked a church we like aesthetically, and that is in the part of the city where we want the wedding, for the ceremony.  You don’t have to be a parishioner in order to get married at a particular church.  Some parishes are easygoing and will accomodate you, and some are really persnickety.  There were two churches we liked, and one was happy to have us, while the other was snooty about it.  We picked the one that was happy and easygoing.

Post # 4
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Do you have a connection to the priest at your former parish? The first thing I would suggest is to go to him for advice. He may be able to make arrangements to celebrate your wedding for you at another church (it’s a bit unusual, but it’s definitely possible). He could also be a really good source of recommendations for other parishes to look into, and he could possibly serve as a liaison to help you get an “in” at your new parish and have an easier time making arrangements for your wedding. Priests in the same diocese generally know one another and know a bit about the other parishes.

Post # 6
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1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

well, pps are right that some churches are quite persnickity and others less so. I would simply spend some time on the web researching different parishes that are close to you (close enough where you could attend after the wedding I mean) and pick one as quickly as you can. I think you can definitely start off by saying “I’m looking to renew my faith after my home parish recently closed – I’m looking for a new church home where I can begin married life. We’re hoping to get married in May of next year, can I ask how that would work out at your parish?” Hopefully by you specifically mentioning the month, that would prompt them to pull out the calendar.

I find just by reading the bulletin online and going to Mass, you can get a good feel for how the parish operates.

I remember when I was trying to find a new parish after I moved, I tried a church where they had a huge portrait of the pastor in the foyer grinning like a fool, and then in the bulletin I read about one of the nuns doing a liturgical dance performance… it just did not feel right. On the other hand my current parish has Eucharistic adoration promoted in the bulletin and the priest didn’t make a big show out of the homily the first time I went.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I attended a wedding a few years ago at St Louis on Edward Street, and thought it was beautiful. The groom was not Catholic, and the couple was living together. I second Magdalena’s advice about explaining your situation–if they question you, they can always call up one of the remaining parishes in your hometown and verify your story. 

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