Post # 31
before I even read anyone else’s responses knowing how judgemental they probably are, let me tell you WHAT I THINK. And that is to be gentle and easy on yourself. If you want to stalk them, stalk them. If you wanna scream and cry til your eyes are swollen shut, do that. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I totally get that you want to outline your relationship and give everyone the facts to come up w a logical explanation as to why he’s doing this, but unfortunately i think in this situation there is no logic or nothing to look into. He’s being beyond selfish, cruel, and it just is not fair to you! In my humble opinion I believe the rose colored glasses he has on right now will eventually come off and he’ll realize the magnitude of hurt he caused you but also the hurt he caused those that loved you as a couple! 8 years is a long time to be together and I am sure your families are intertwined and there’s love between many involved. I’m just so sorry 🙁
My advice for the immediate future: stay busy, force yourself to go on some dates – they may be shitty but it’s still a night out! Who knows what the future holds.. but some advice that I’ve held close to the chest is the fact that EVERYTHING is temporary. The good, the bad, and everything in between. These are bad days, no doubt, but you will eventually have those good days again. You will be your happy self and everything will eventually fall into place. Take good care of yourself. Again I’m sorry but you will be ok soon enough ❤️
Post # 32
Yes rebound means exactly the same thing here. OP says it also applies to ‘overlaps’ but l never heard this. An overlap is , as you said, the other woman or the woman he cheated with. Rebound is the the poor sod who just happens along when someone has not really recovered and mistakes the comfort/safety/ healing they feel for something more.