(Closed) My Partners sex drive has drastically decreased recently! ugh!

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

What about a weekend away? My bf has a super stressful job but when we’re away he’s able to focus on me and really relax. Maybe it will kick start him??? Go easy on him and give him a little bit of time!

Post # 4
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I would try to help him get active.  Go out, exercise, fill the mind with happy thoughts and maybe his libido will be revived.  Care for depression may also be necessary.   Good Luck! 

Post # 5
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sorry you’re going through that ;(.

I really don’t know what to do in this situation except to try and initiate  and not take it personally if he says no. And you can always just take care of yourself when you feel the need until his libido picks up again if all else fails.

Just know that you are loved and that it’s just a tough, tough time for a man to go through losing a career. It’s part of what makes them feel like men-being able to provide for themselves and others and being successful at what they do.

Be supportive of new ideas he has, maybe take him on a date or give him a massage. 

Good luck, lady.


Post # 6
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sweetie Pie 21:  i feel for you.  i have a high sex drive too. 

it sounds like he may be depressed.  i would suggest that he go speak to someone.   is he working somewhere else now or still looking?  that could really do damage on a man’s self-esteem if he can’t support his new bride.

you need to stay positive and supportive for him.  just be there for him.  in the meantime, i’d get a vibrator.


Post # 7
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would jus try to adjust to his sexual pattern for a little while, I know as a woman if I got Ina funk I’d want the same respect, just try to adhere for now and work from there. This is a long term thing, you will have different sex drives at different points,

Post # 8
3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@LuckyJuls:  This! Everything right here a 100% over

Post # 9
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

He probably feels like he failed as a provider and a man. It’s probably all subconscious, I doubt he has even thought those words, but I think it’s a common primal fear for men who’re having work- or income-related problems. Find small ways to make him feel more like a big strong man, maybe by getting him to help you with something or making comments. Maybe also try to find a way to make him feel optimistic about future finances or business prospects. Hopefully that helps. 

Post # 10
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Poor guy! 🙁 I know its hard, but you really need to be supportive and try your best to cheer him up. Having to close a business would be hard to deal with!

Why can’t you talk to him about it? How else will this get fixed?

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