Post # 1
Long story short, my FI’s dad is a professional wedding photographer. His work is really beautiful and we are SO grateful that he offered to pay for the wedding photographer as a gift to us. Since he is an expert in the field, we took his advice when he suggested we use his second shooter. We met with him for dinner about 5 months and things were ok. He was nice, but I didn’t really have any type of connection with him. I am SUPER uncomfortable in front of a camera and he didn’t seem like the type that would make me less nervous. Like I said, he was nice but just really quiet. He also didn’t bring a portfolio which annoyed me, but I brushed it off (I know…red flag).
At that time FI’s dad discussed the rate with him and said he should draw up a contract. It’s been 5 months and we have nothing. My Fiance has emailed him about a contract and he keeps saying “yup..i’ll send it soon”. And we get nothing. It’s just making me nervous and I have a bad feeling.
I feel really stuck. I know how lucky we are to have our photographer paid for, but he just seems really unreliable. I’m stuck though because he works closely with FI’s dad. If this continues I’ll have Fiance talk with his dad, I am just worried if we wait too long we wont be able to find a good photogrpaher. It seems like vendors book up so quickly around here. Ughhh
Post # 3
I would bring this up with FI’s dad. As a photographer, he should totally understand professionalism and the crunch many brides should understand. I am guessing you dont want to start any drama with your Future Father-In-Law, but if you dont get this out now, there will be drama down the road when your photographer doesn’t come through.
Post # 4
If you guys can afford a photographer yourself, I would suggest meeting with a few and talking with them about your situation. You can give them your date and ask that they contact you if anyone is planning on booking that date. That way you could make a decision if that time comes.
I know it will be hard, but if you and your Fiance talk to your Future Father-In-Law very factually and say you are worried about not getting a contract yet, worried about his relationship with the photographer complicating things, and that you didn’t really click with the photographer. IMO, piece of mind will be SO important on your wedding day.
Post # 5
Unfortuently we can’t afford the photographer ourselves anymore. We created a very strict budget when we started planning, and there isn’t much wiggle room. Especially for something as expensive as photos. We would have included it in the initial budget, but since FI’s dad said it was a gift, we left it out.
I will have Fiance talk to his dad if we dont hear anything in a few weeks.
Post # 6
Like PPs I don’t think there’s anything wrong with bringing this up. Even go as far as to say, “he seems nice but he doesn’t instill confidence in me and he makes me (more) nervous.”
Post # 7
@Bostongrl25: I see. Tough situation! Hopefully your talk will go smoothly and you’ll be able to figure it out.
Is it possible that the photographer is giving Future Father-In-Law a steep discount or even doing it as a favor and therefore not taking it as seriously or making it a priority?
Your concerns are definitely valid, so I hope it works out!
Post # 8
I would talk with your FI’s dad this week, don’t wait! Has your FI’s dad paid him yet?
Post # 9
if you do end up looking for another photographer in the boston area, i suggest sarah phillips photography and justine yandle photography.
i think Fiance should talk to his dad about this. thats the best and most direct thing to do.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I agree with everyone else, have your Fiance talk to his dad. His dad might have other recommendations after hearing that you’re not happy with his second shooter. It is worth a risk to have pictures that you love with a photographer you trust.