(Closed) My prayers go out to any and all parents adopting in Russia

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

So sad. =(

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That is so sad. Poor children…so many need a home.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s so sad.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have read bits & pieces, and what I gather is that politics are putting a hold on parents from the US adopting Russian children…I can’t imagine how upsetting this is for families in the middle of the process now. However, as a special education teacher, I’ve seen SO many children who come from Russia that have serious, life-long troubles due to how they were treated as tiny babies. I’ve seen serious attachment issues, fetal alcohol syndrome, children with serious psychological disorders from being left in a crib for weeks on end, and all these adoptive parents have said they were unsuspecting and left feeling hopeless. So many of these children go on to live in mental health wards or children’s hospitals because adoptive parents just don’t know how to handle such children (who could?!) and weren’t prepared for this…I can’t imagine the struggle of trying to have a baby and not being able to (FI &I won’t be trying until about 3 yrs from now), but I don’t think I’d ever adopt from Russia to begin with.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How sick it is for someone to deprive the futures of children for their own agenda. Very, very disheartening.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This is really sad!!!! Unfortunately an american family did return a child back to Russia after adoption, because they could not handle the child’s health/emotional issues….IDK if this has anything to do with it, but is still sad to know this is going on there and who knows maybe somewhere else in the world too.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I guess I’m not understanding the motive behind signing this.  So more Russians adopt Russian children?  Does he think there’s a shortage??!!  What a doofus.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is awful. Just because a few times things went wrong, that’s no reason to completely put a halt to Russian children being able to find homes and families in America. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It’s more diplomatic and nationalistic than the American media reveals.  Russian children adopted by Americans are still considered to be Russia citizens even though the U.S. no longer recognizes their Russian citizenship; once the children land on U.S. soil they are Americans and Americans only to the U.S. government.  When something goes wrong the Russians treat the children as Russian citizens and the Americans protect the children as if they were American citizens.

Additionally, Russians are embarassed by the adoption of their children by Americans because it is seen as Russia being unable to care for their own people.  They also have a population growth issue like most of Europe so the Russian population is falling and they are adopting Russian children out to other countries like the U.S. where they are no longer considered citizens.  It’s a diplomatic nightmare.

Finally, some of the Russian children adopted do come from orphanages in Russia that are no better than prisons.  I know of at least one child that has scars on their ankle from being shackeled to a bed at the Russian orphanage they came from.  Many of these abused children are adopted out to the U.S. because the Russians are not interested in adopting them.  The only hopeful part of the situation it that it seems the Russian government wants to elimnate the orphanages and transfer over to more of a foster care system like we have (which for all of its warts is not nearly as bad as the old institutional/orphanage system of care.)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@MrsR4ever:  I remember when that family ‘returned’ the son they adopted to Russia. Heartbreaking on all accounts. I do, however, have a friend who has been trying to adopt an adorable 9 year old boy for years and keeps meeting roadblocks. She is absolutely beside herself that this is going to be signed. She is actually going to be on CNN tonight giving and interview about her situation. I feel so bad for her, and for this boy who desperately wants a mother. She said she called the orphanedge (she’s been there to visit a handful of times, and already has an adopted daughter from that orphanedge) and he wouldn’t even come to the phone to talk to her because he feels rejected (yet again.) It’s so sad.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

This makes me so sad, mad but most of all embarrassed for my former country.  Their reasoning of trying to encourage Russians to adopt Russian children completely overlooks the social culture of the country.  Adoption is very very taboo in Russia.  Very  few people are willing to adopt and if they do it’s very secretive, (they would never admit to it).  So it’s not like all these children are going to magically find homes in Russia.  They are going to spend their entire life in an orphanage that can barely provide them anything beyond absolute life necessities, ie, food, water, shelter, clothing, and throw them out with no support or skills at 18.  

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Max04092010:  Oh no iam sorry about your friend’s situation…it isn’t fair that kids have to wait and wait for a loving family and when there is one they still have to wait for the country and their laws to give the okay.  I wish your friend the best and hopefully things turn her way 🙂

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