- 8 years ago
Heheh, so the title is a little dramatic.
Anyways – Hi Bees. Advice please, and thank you!
When I met my boyfriend, neither of us planned on finding anything intensely serious, much less “the one”. From the beginning, I was vocal about the fact that I had plans to move at the end of the winter season to an exciting new city (out of state) that I had had my eye on for a great deal of time. Of course, I fell in love and fell in love hard, and those very same plans were put on the back burner. We now live together in the same small beach town we met, happy as clams, but I am still constantly daydreaming of the big move.
Professionally, I would really like to move on from my current job and get ready to apply to graduate school for my Ph.D. I crave a larger city, a new environment, and one last adventure before I settle down and dig my roots into the soil of my forever home. Of course, my boyfriend *just* got a promotion (fairly impressive pay increase) and is admittedly excited about his new responsibilities.
The topic of moving this summer came up just last weekend. I told him how overly stressed I am at my current job and how wonderful it would be to take the plunge and start the next chapter of our lives somewhere novel and new. This is when he dropped the ‘doozy’ – with his promotion, he claimed to be more readily able to save for the engagement ring he so badly wants to purchase. If we move, he’s unsure how long it would take to find employment, if he would have to take a pay decrease, and in turn, be forced to put the e-ring/impending wedding on hold. He suggested staying – another 6-12 months (ahhh!), and see where we’re at next year. I hate to admit I’m a little crushed. I know I could very well be acting like a baby, and I want so badly to support him, but I don’t want to stay!
So, my little bees. Anyone been in similar situation before? I’m unsure how to react, what to say, how to proceed…