Post # 1
I just thought I’d share. So my advisor is this great, inspiring woman. She has spent her life working on welfare rights and poverty and inequality…she considers herself a feminist to the core. But she still had a wedding, wore a cheap ivory dress, and she and her husband got inexpensive rings.
So she said her wedding was great, fun, and full of love and happiness. Her one regret is that she didn’t have anything SUPER special to pass down to her daughter…she didn’t have a daughter at the time. She said it’s funny that she didn’t think any of that was really important and it wasn’t really a part of her family’s tradition to pass things down. She didn’t think of it until her daughter turned 7 and started asking.
So, I just thought I’d share since I have somewhat of the same approach. I haven’t wanted to spend much on my dress, shoes, jewelery. But it was like, oh, maybe I should make sure there is something that I would want to save and pass down.
So, do you have anything you are planning to keep and pass down if you do have children? I’d love to hear others ideas 🙂
Post # 3
Ooh! I love this already, I hope we get more comments. I know my daughter wont want to wear my dress since I reaaally didnt want to wear my moms. I cant think of anything that I’m using and will pass down hmmmmmm.
Post # 4
My daughters are getting near marrying age and I’m here as a future MOB; and I must say this has never crossed my mind!
My mum had nothing to give me (perhaps because she had a small rushed wedding), so my wedding was in my style. And I expect my daughters to do the same. There’s no way my dress will suit them: aside from the style, they’re both way too tall! If they ask, I’ve still got my necklace and a couple of other things, but I’ve got nothing set aside to give them.
Post # 5
My mom is passing to me a necklace that her mother gave to her for her wedding. So I will probably pass that down to my daughter (hoping I have at least one daughter!!). I agree that a dress is unlikely to be passed down because styles change so much. My mom’s was beautiful but definitely not for me!
Post # 6
I thought about taking some of my dress and making a ring pillow out of it.
Post # 7
Well, I received my great grandmothers wedding ring set that I intend to wear for life, and to pass down to my future daughter. If I have no daughters, I will contemplate giving it to my son to give to future daughter in law, or bury them with me lol.
Post # 8
@Kay1126: If you have only sons, you can still give something to your daughter(s)-in-law!
Post # 9
I have a teenage son and I will pass on my Brooch bouquet if they would like to use it in any way. I wore my mother’s black diamond necklace and earrings which could be something borrowed someday
Post # 10
Well my daughter’s been in on all the wedding plans, so I already have all her input about what she likes of mine (and what she doesn’t like…). I don’t know that I have anything specific to pass down to her though.
Post # 12
We’re not having kids, but I may retain something small to give to maybe a cool niece or somebody if I make a connection like that in the family. (I’m close with an Aunt and want her involved with my wedding, so I figure it’s not out of the question.)
Post # 13
I’m wearing my FMIL’s tiara, so that will probably be offered to any daughters (or daughters in law) to wear for their wedding. No pressure though, it’s seriously hideous – if my Future Mother-In-Law wasn’t so excited about it, I definitely wouldn’t wear it.
Post # 14
I have an old family handkerchief heirloom. The entire thing is normal sized, but the fabric is only about 2 inches by 2 inches. The rest is lace that someone in my family handmade. I love having this. I think it is important to start traditions like this, even if you don’t already have something in place. Earrings or jewelry work great. I am also wearing my grandmothers pearl necklace.
Post # 16
@icetea: I think different brides have different regrets!
One woman said she regretted not getting a photographer – I love great photography so that was an automatic yes for me.
Another said she regrets that her parents never met. Ours have not met and probably never will.
However, I will keep my gown – not for a daughter, I don’t plan on having children, but because this Christmas we were all sitting around a table looking at a 1907 wedding gown, photo and marriage certificate of H’s great grandma. That was pretty cool. I guess for historical significance.