Post # 1
……And I wish we could have a do-over. I always thought Mr Rocky point would ask me in front of family and/or friends or even strangers, professing his undying love on bended knee and whatnot. I thought there would be some enlightening declaration of secret tidbit of emotion that I would remember forever. I thought there would be a picture, either from someone we know, who knew it was about to happen, or some bystander who thought to whip out their phone and snap one.
What i NEVER thought is that I would pick out my ring, then go with Mr Repost to pick it up (to make sure it fit, and it was done correctly) and then “accidentally” fin its hiding place and secretly put it on every morning when he was at work. I did not expect myself to be always asking him when it was going to happen, thereby ruining any chance of a surprise, and I most certainly did not ever exepct him to say “If you stop asking me for five minutes, maybe you can have t today” Of course, I practically held my breath for five minutes (which was actually kind of tough, as I was in a ball on the couch having crampy pains from IUD insertion). Mr Repost showed up on the living room floor about five minutes later (!) and, on two knees, told me he loved me very much and would like nothing more than to spend his whole life with me and would I marry him…. Of course I said yes. Anyway, it was March 9th, and ever since then i have wished for a do-over. I told him this once, and he said not to worry… but I think he forgot. Plus, how would he ever get my ring away from me now?
It was definitely harder at first when everyonewants to know all about the proposal, but here it is 8 months later, and it still bugs me sometime. Like this was the one time I would ever see his love and creativity and emotions on display and I blew it by being such a pest.
Post # 3
Oh my gosh!
That is the exact same proposal I had! lol I picked it out, I went with him to pick it up, I tried it on, I watched him put it in the locked box, I snuck it out often lol, I asked him when do I get it every few minutes of everyday and finally while I was laying on the couch buggin him for it he just gave it to me and proposed on his knee next to me as I was laying on the couch LOL!
He said I ruined it and really I did because he was planning to propose a week later on Valentines day at the aquarium in the rain forest room area (our favorite part). Oh well I still liked it and another week waiting for the ring would have driven me nuts. I got to show it off at the Super Bowl party we were headed to that night.
Don’t feel sad, just be happy you get to marry him and do what I do… focus on having the best wedding ever to make up for the lack of proposal awesomness! Tehe.
Post # 5
@Ms Rocky Point: LOL as soon as I read your story I knew I had to post mine… were proposal twins! Now you shouldn’t feel bad at all 😉
Post # 6
I dunno, I think it’s kind of cute, that it was so literal that you waited for 5 minutes.
Post # 7
Is your fiance a mind reader? In your first paragraph you said “thought” 4 times. “I always thought”, “I thought”, “I thought”, “bystander who thought”. Did you ever tell your fiance what you “thought”? Communication is #1 in a relationship and if you don’t communicate with him he won’t know your desires in life or in anything as a matter of fact.
Some fiances are planners and some “wing it” and speak from the heart. I’m sorry you were disappointed but at the very moment you were asked to pick out the ring you should have told him you want to be surorised. If you didn’t want to totally leave it up to him you could have gave him an idea or pictures of what you’d like.
You secretly tried the ring on every morning while he was at work? Are you serious? Then he finally gets down on not only one knee but two, professes his love and says he wants you to be his wife. Now you want a do over? I think you sunk your own ship by #1- Not telling or giving hints of your dream proposal #2- Secretly trying on the ring he hid #3- Pestering him to propose and #4- Not being happy as to how he proposed and wanting a do over.
Unfortunately we always can’t have what we want how we want it. He asked you to marry him the way he wanted to and you’re wanting him to do it a different way because you didn’t like it. Accept his proposal the way he asked, there are more important things in life.
Post # 8
Eh, my Fiance proposed to me while I was looking for a shoe…also, he missunderstood my plans for that evening, I said I had dinner at 8 pm with friends, he thought I meant I was leaving the apartment at 8 pm. He proposed at like, 7:20 and five minutes later I ran out the door because my friend had a cab waiting downstairs…so much romance 😉
I told the story to a friend and she leaned over to my other friend and said “Don’t ever let anyone propose to me like that”
Yours is definitely sweet. Like, 2,000 people get engaged in Central Park every year, probably just as many get engaged on top of the empire state building, I could not even begin to guess how many get proposed to in Paris…but there is something about a proposal that is about the couple and not the spectacle that is really lovely.
Post # 9
First off I have to say that I love your sn! I grew up in Rhode Island and loved Rocky Point!!! It seems like a lifetime ago I was there 🙂
Now on to the other stuff…
I totally can see your side in wanting a more “romantic” story to tell for your proposal. My 3 besties have been proposed to 1)central park 2)on NYE and 3)after finising a 5K her groom to be said he didn’t want to cross the finish line as BF/GF but as an engaged couple *sigh*. I myself had a similar situationto yours..been together for 6.5 years, have a son and a home together, finally convinced him that although yes in every other way we act like we are married that the celebration and declaring it in front of our close family and friends was extremely important to me, went to pick out the ring and was there the day he picked it up…heck I even put in money for the thing! I didn’t get the epic proposal either, he got down on his knee in our kitchen and our son was under our feet asking for a snack…While sometimes I get upset that I don’t have some crazy story to tell I look back and think that it was actually just perfect for us. Grandiose gestures and surprises are wonderful don’t get me wrong. However I find that romance in the quietest of moments and that infiltrate everyday life become the most memorable. Did I cry because I was blissfully happy that we were finally taking that last step? Absolutely! What is important is that I am finally marrying the man that I have loved for over 7 years (we dated before) and completing my family.
I would say try and hold on to what the end result is in the whole proposal process–the beginning of a new life together. Also I am sure when it comes to you and your FI’s big day whatever you feel may have lacked in your proposal will come through tenfold when you commit yourselves to eachother.
Post # 10
If it makes you feel better, my Fiance asked me after a long night of emotionally-draining “conversation” in which we hashed out the major wrinkles in our life plan. I hadn’t slept much. I hadn’t brushed my teeth. It was gross.
But when he asked me, I felt 100% about saying yes. I didn’t get a ring for months.
People will stop asking about The Story. Or the two of you could have fun making up a totally ridiculous one, and see how many people buy it. The rest of your lives is so much more, you know?
Post # 11
I think it sounds romantic! well the part of him getting on both knees , just you two etc…. I wouldnt worry myself to death because it wasnt like you imagined. The most important thing is he did it and from all the women in the world, he asked you! Guys dont always make things like that out to be as big a deal as us women do! LOL . Alot of guys are just ready to get it over with cause their scared to death haha. I think he chose the placetime because he was most comfortable in that situation. You wouldnt catch my husband in a million years professing his love for me in a crowded room, he HATES being center of attention!!!! HAHAHA Hope the bad feelings leave ya soon! 😀 *hug*
Post # 12
I mean, not to sound rude. You kinda got what you asked for. You ruined any surprise possible that he could have given you. I understand the whole picking out the ring and picking it up, but trying it on daily and then hounding him to get him to propose…it’s more pressure than anything. How could he even think of anything cute or romantic to do for your proposal if you didn’t even give him time to plan because you wanted the ring then and there and wanted to know all of the details? I get it, you know he has it and you want it. It’s hard to not want it once you know they have it (I picked out my ring, knew when it was delivered, and knew where he had it hidden, but I refused to look at the ring or even go searching til it was on my finger. I’d tell him once in awhile that my finger felt lonely…but other than that..I let him give the proposal he wanted and I ultimately would have wanted because I want to look back at that thinking it was great). It’s just kinda hard to expect an amazing engagement when you didn’t even give him a chance
Post # 13
@Ill Be Mrs B: [comment removed]
Seriously, though, yes he did know what i wanted for a proposal (big-picture-wise, not details) He knew I wanted a good story, that i wanted a big deal, that i wanted public. He actually planned how he was going to ask me almost 3 years ago. (Didnt tell me what, of course, but couldn’t have been what happened!) Also, we have better communication than 99% of people I know or have ever known in relationships. But thanks for the sage advice!
On a side note, he is a “planner”. As a matter of fact his USMC MOS was MAGTAF Planner. He knows I love to be surprised and that is almost impossible to do it, because i am an even better planner and I can think of every possible way to surprise someone, including me!
So, as for sinking my own ship, that may be true, but your reasons #1 and #2 are irrelevant.
Post # 14
@ashleyyyg: see reply to PP
Post # 15
Thanks Bees! You’re right (mostly) and I am totally stoked that I am marrying my best friend, the greatest love of my life! I’m just venting… on a wedding website… made for and run by brides-to-be….filled with other B2Bs that may have similar concerns and stories. I appreciate all your support. Ultimately I don’t really care, because as you all have said, the end result is what matters…. It just sometimes is a bummer that EVERYONE around me has these great stories… and I’m pretty sure there is somethign in the water where I work, because someone else gets engaged every week! hahahah
Post # 16
This is weird, but sometimes I wished mine was more ordinary! I think there is something so sweet in just being proposed to in the moment, no planning, you know…maybe like at 4 o’clock in the afternoon on a Tuesday at the coffee shop. Then again, I’m weird.