(Closed) My public apology to all you Bee's.

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
143 posts
Blushing bee

@photojunkie:  Cheer up! We ALL can get a little Bitchy at times. No one has the right to judge. Even though I wasn’t in the thread you are talking about, I appreciate that you are apologizing to the bee’s that were. (:

Post # 5
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1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@photojunkie:  I think it’s nice that you’re apologizing.  Just remember, you are ASKING people for their opinions about your life.  You have to try not to get offended or defensive if they don’t agree w/your life choices or aren’t giving you the advice you hoped for, because you ASKED them to comment.

 

Welcome to the Bee!

Post # 7
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6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hey, I still hope you check out my book recs!  Get them at the library!  Even the best marriages can always learn new things.  Best wishes, photojunkie!

Post # 9
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@photojunkie: as @greenviolets:  said, try to remember that you are asking the public that is the internet for their opinions regarding your life or your choices. Everyone has differing views and beliefes and they aren’t always going to agree with yours. Doesn’t make one person’s opinion any more or less correct or incorrect, it’s their opinion.

As a side note: I always hate it when women blame bitchiness on their cycles.

 

 

Post # 10
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My previous post is is awaiting a spam check, but please stop blaming an illness or your cycle for you’re lack of ability to handle differing opinions from your own. It’s poor taste.

Post # 11
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1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@drummerbride:  +1

I read through all of the threads and I dont think you can blame it all on your time of month. If we all did that it would be a scary place!

The apology is appreciated! Try to keep in mind the things PPs have said

 

Welcome to the hive

Post # 12
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4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@drummerbride:  Agree. It’s even worse when men do it to women, let alone women doing it to themselves. It minimizes one’s feelings, and invalidates real thoughts and opinions and dismisses them as just one big hormone wad. This sends the message that women should not be taken seriously.

Post # 13
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868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@photojunkie:  It was an adjustment to internet forums for me. I’m used to asking friends for advice and I really enjoy giving advice, and I had to realize that not everyone is like my friends!! I know that sounds so naive, but I had to learn to ignore some of the things people say on here, because they don’t know me, and especially in the beginning, they don’t exactly care. People answering posts are giving their first and maybe second thoughts and probably spending about 2 minutes thinking about the issue tops. I think it shows class that you apologized, and I’m sure you have a really big heart. After I learned to ignore the people that offended me, I have had such a good experience here!!

Post # 14
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3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@photojunkie:  Glad you’re apologizing :). My advice: if you don’t have anything nice to say, than just ignore the comment instead of taking it personally. Saying personal attacks will get you banned & no one likes them. & we have a wide variety of opinions on here, you’re not going to agree with some or maybe even most of them, but we help others out, give our opinions & advice in order to be helpful. Even if it may not sound like it (some are more direct & “real” & some are said sugar-coated). Also, we’ve all been through a lot of stuff too, if you would explain more or be more open for discussion, we might have been in a similar situation & can help you through things. I’ve found this place to extremely helpful, even when I don’t agree with everyone, you can still get good advice here.

Post # 15
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3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would say wait and just watch how the hive reacts to some posts. Honestly i have seen fights break out over nothing and its ridiculous. I dont know why your first post got closed. Its turned into a hate spew against you and that wasn’t right at all.  

Sometimes we need to not post if a topic is touchy. Or to try and be helpfull and not critical. 

Welcome and all the best to you. 

Post # 16
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there on a public forum and accept feedback. I applaud you for that.

Sometimes we can’t see our situation because we’re so caught up in the dynamics of things. Other people can look in and give us another point of view we would have never considered. We have to be open to at least considering that point of view if we are to grow beyond our current capabilities.

I’ve had a difficult life also and every negative thing that was said to me felt like an attack on my very being. If someone said I was making a bad decision it felt like they were saying I was a bad person. I couldn’t seperate my actions from who I was. My self-esteem was shaky and I had no sense of who I was apart from other people. I wanted love and acceptance and I felt like I was constantly being belittled and rejected. Your posts reminded me of me back then. It took a long time and a lot of counseling to seperate me front my actions and see my worth as a child of God. It would have been a nightmare to come on WB and receive negative feedback.

My only suggestion is instead of asking for right or wrong answers, ask for help to get better. Asking for things you can do to remedy the situation will enable people to give you their experience and solution without making you wrong.

Hope you find your place on here. Most Bees are pretty moral, upright, loving people and they are more than willing to help you if you ask. Good luck.

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