Post # 1
Ok I’m sure that my fiancé and I have went about all of this the wrong way, and we are pretty set in our ways. We are definitely different and that’s a def understatement. I have found the wedding dress of my dreams, the only thing is that it is RED… But I think that the color is what makes me love it so much. Our favorite colors are RED and BLACK so we decided that we would make this our colors for the wedding. We fell in love with this church in our community that has a gothic but classic look to it. Its old ivy covered and crumbled in all the right places. We were lucky enough to book it for the date that we wanted. I found just simple burgundy colored bouquet with small spurts in it that my flouriest is able to recreate for us. I just hope that the colors don’t blend with my dress too well. But this is where we stand, we are now stuck. I want dark but beautiful, elegant but not tacky. How do you know when there is to much red or to much black? Should we add another color in? what would go with it? Would white stand out to much with the other colors, what about cream? I’m starting to think that maybe being different is not a good thing. I definitely now think that finding the dress and trying to plan an entire event around this dress was a huge mistake. But I am completely in love with it, and Randle my fiancé is as well. Can anyone help me? I need directions, opinions, suggestions, something…
Post # 3
I think I would add a lighter accent color. Have a white/cream bouquet, and have BMs in white/cream. The dress is gorgeous, but your gut just might be right that it’s too dark.
Post # 4
I think the dress is beautiful too. And if you love it then its perfect. If you want to keep it dark and beautiful, and still keep it elegant, I would add in another color, such as white or ivory or cream. And add little elements that make it elegant, like pretty candles for centerpieces, or twinkle lights. Things that “brighten” it up without taking away the dark look.
Post # 5
the dress is perfect and if you are in love with it, go for it! but i would suggest making the flowers (yours or BMs) cream in color. Or consider having the tuxes be white or cream…accents will make the dress stand out more.
Post # 6
Definitely touches of ivory!!!
PS: and don’t feel apologetic for being different! Thinking out of the box is GOOOOOOOD in my book 😉
Post # 7
What a beautiful dress! I think you should definitely stick with the dress and I totally agree with having a light colored boquet and light accents.
Post # 8
Just Googling red and black wedding, here are some images that come up. I think your vision is definitely doable. You just need some inspiration. Also remember that just because “your colors” are black and red doesn’t mean you can’t have other neutrals or other colors seep in where they are appropriate. not every tiny thing has to be those two colors, (that’s when things get too matchy matchy)
Post # 9
An accent color would be nice. What about picking up the color of the embroidery from the dress (is it silver/white/gold?).
Post # 10
I like the idea of adding in ivory or white or silver as an accent color to make the red and black really pop.
The dress is beautiful and if it’s what you want, then go for it. Red is a good-luck color for weddings in lots of Eastern cultures.
Post # 11
I’d do cream, gold and red with small black accents so it doesn’t get too dark feeling. I don’t think you can have too much red (I like the warm feeling of it) bbut I think black table cloths etc really make the space feel ominous.
Post # 12
Thank you all so much for your help. The accents on my dress are silver and pearls. But i have decided to go with the ivory as my accent color. My MB’s and I met at the dress shop today after i read you suggestions. We talked it over and decided on a dress together. I had the idea that we could find a dress that they would enjoy wearing, and would possibly like to wear again, and they loved that idea. I am paying for their dresses out of my budget. I found a cake and ordered it so yeaa cake lol. Just to be different i altered flavs of the cake since there were 4 tiers. choc, white(x2), and red velvet…. here are pics let me know what you think…
Post # 13
I love the cake! It goes perfect with your theme/colors, its super cool.
I really like the dress style. Is the dress color ivory or gold? You mentioned ivory but the picture color looks gold. I think either would go well with the red and black.
Post # 14
Ok here goes. I’m not going to read the other posts, but I do know how to answer your question. The general rule of thumb is when you are incorporating color, it is supposed to be more of splashes, not chunks. And you really should have one base color and maybe two accent colors, which would be the black and the red. Since your dress is red, I would say his tux should be black, and go with either a black or red vest and a black or red tie/bow tie. Where the color could come in is with the centerpieces, the bridesmaids dresses, etc. Since you are in a completely red dress, in order to add, not take away, your bridal party should wear black bridesmaids dresses. It really isn’t too much. Just the look and feel of the place you are getting married should have what you need, and if you need color somewhere, just add in a little. A little goes a long way, it really does.
Post # 15
Love your pick for bridemaids dresses! I think it will look great and really make your dress color pop (plus it’s nice to have the girls in a different color since all the men will be in black).