Post # 1
So, I’ve been with my SO for 4.5 years. Still no ring. But I have been thinking about our wedding. We’ve talked about it a little bit. Both know we want to get married so he has no problem with me brainstorming now.
I was getting used to the fact that we still aren’t enaged and then in December my Best Friend from high school got engaged to a guy she’d been dating for 6 months. Little upset, little down. Got over it. Talking to her about the wedding, she said she plans to do a fall wedding with her colors being brown and orange. And I was frustrated. That had been my plan all along, but I’d never told her that, so I just kinda moved on and picked new colors. Fast forward to February, my best friend from work got engaged. She knew my frustration over my best friend from high school getting engaged, so she was hesitant to tell me since her and her SO have only been together for two years. Anyway, I’m happy for her and the green eyed monster wasn’t that bad until yesterday. We were talking about her wedding. She finally picked her colors: black, white and red. And yet again I was cussing under my breath. She saw the look on my face, and asked if I thought it was cheesy. And I told her no. I thought it was great. Well, she knows that I’ve been brainstorming for myself, and so she wants my help with anything I’ll be willing to help her with. Of course, she doesn’t know that I was thinking about black and white, cause I’m not engaged, and I don’t talk about my plans. So now here I am trying to be a good friend, and helping her plan a wedding with colors I want to use. It’s really frustrating. I know I can’t claim color combinations, but ughh.. it’s still annoying. I guess I could look at her wedding as a test run for my own. Sorry.. just had to vent. Have no one else to complain to who would understand in the slighest.
Post # 3
Honestly, I would stick with your first plan if you love it the most. Brown/orange/fall colours are the most common colours for a fall wedding. It’s not like it’s so far out of the box that people are going to think you copied her. Especially since I would assume your wedding would have a fairly different set of guests.
And really, things can be imagined so many different ways that your version of brown/orange might be completely different than hers.
Post # 4
Oh, and really down the line, you may even change your mind. Pre-engagement I always dreamed about an October fall wedding in orange/red/brown with pumpkins and stuff.
Not at all what we ended up doing. I’m having a July wedding in white, green and grey!
Post # 5
Ok, well first, stop eliminating colors just becasue other people are doing them! I’m going to three weddings this summer and all the couples know each other and are pretty good friends. Their colors are: 1. royal blue and white, 2. royal blue and silver, and 3. light blue and white. But they’re all adults and no one thinks they are copying each other. There are only so many colors in the world, there’s bound to be people in your life that like similar ones. But there are also so many things that make weddings different from each other- different themes, different decor, different food, different music- colors are only a small part of that.
Go with whatever color scheme you want. Fall colors are obviously popular during the fall months. Your best friend didn’t invent red and brown, and no reasonable person will think that you’re wrong to also do fall colors for a fall wedding. It will work out in the end, and both weddings will be beautiful in their own, different ways.
Post # 6
I think you should stick to your original colours – there are SO many ways of doing orange/brown colours fir fall… the colours are where you start from but the details are what really give the wedding a “theme”
Post # 7
I’m not trying to attack you so don’t take this the wrong way, but for some reason I doubt that your slight anger has to do with her picking similar colors and more so from the fact that she got engaged before you and it only took a couple of months for the guy to propose to her instead of the 4+ years that you’ve been with your SO and no ring…
I understand that you are upset…but how many people pick those same colors around the same time?
I have a good friend that even though we didn’t have our wedding the same year, we are having it around the same time of year, so we were both planning, and I showed her my colors (teal/silver) and she said “I love those colors! I think we are going to go with aqua/chartruse/platinum” I was actually happy for her even though they are very similar…
Stick to the colors you want…you’ll make it different from hers anyway…plus if she’s your best friend you should enjoy that that’s another thing that you guys share!
Post # 8
I totally understand how you feel..one of my best friends booked the venue Ive been looking at for a year now. But its not fair to be upset with her, I never told her and she had no idea I even knew where it was (its about 4 hours away..pretty random that she found it!). She has asked me to help her with wedding stuff bc she knows I want to be an event designer/wedding planner and that Im pretty knowledgeable about the subject. Let me tell you..it is ROUGH..I almost DON’T want to help b/c I don’t want to give away any of my future wedding ideas! But anyways, I wouldn’t worry too much about colors..why dont you keep your orange/brown combo and add an accent color (pink would be beautiful! Or gold? Yellow? So pretty!!)? That way your colors are the same but different too 🙂