Post # 1
SOOOO My wedding is in 10 months give or take a month or two. I’ve been engaged since July 17th of this year and we are just really getting serious about the planning aspect! Well we’re on a budget, two grad students without a lot of parent contribution, with a not too small wedding count at around 200!
Well here’s where our issues arrise. 1. We havent been very active in church in the last 5 years (since starting college) and I’m not sure where to even start inquiring about a church ceremony.
2. Saturdays come at a premium rate and the only reasonable place around here is far from anything I know :s. So we were thinking Sunday (the cheapest), Friday or a place where you have to provide your own caterer, but those have been difficult to locate!
3. One of our groomsmen and DEAR DEAR friend is an athlete… and his ability to travel is limited. We really want him there, but it’s making it difficult for us because the venue that we are interested in has NO Saturday slots, and few Friday and Sunday slots and we don’t know how Friday and Sunday will work with his schedule.
I’m getting super stressed. We are working with 10,000 if that and are in the state of Michigan. i’m kind of doing this all on my own. The last option is to wait an entire year, but my Fi isn’t really liking that idea
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re going through this!
I don’t have much advice, but I do understand what you’re going through (especially with problem 3 on your list!)
My Maid/Matron of Honor is finishing med school and starts her residency soon so we are also working with someone who has a difficult schedule… We decided to get married in 2012 in order to avoid a lot of that drama. It sucks, yea… but it is important that she is there with us so it’s a sacrifice we were willing to make. Plus it’s giving us an extra year to save $$ for the big day!!
Good luck… I know that no matter what you decide to do, you will have a wonderful wedding. 🙂
Post # 4
I understand! I have moved my wedding around so many time to try to make things easier on everyone and us. I’ve finally decided it’s next June and if I’m the only one who shows up then oh well. We have the same budget, no parental help, I’m finishing school, he has a job but travels a lot, he might have to have surgery soon… it’s never ending. I told him today I feel like if I don’t push everything along it won’t happen. He hasn’t been helping with anything, he says yes or no to things sometimes, but I have to badger him about it. I told him the reception coordinator called and told me the (new) date I want is available and his reply was don’t do anything extravagant! I have sent him all the papers on this place and he agreed it was perfect! AH! Oh, and we’ve been engaged for four freaking years.
I feel your pain, it’s hard.
Post # 5
I went through that too when I was planning. It sounds like you just need to reach out and get your hands on concrete stuff. I know that this isn’t going to sound all that helpful, but make a decision. Just one. As soon as I said, okay we’re getting married on a Sunday, things started to fall better into place. And don’t let hypotheticals freak you out–I’m sure your church would love to marry you, but what’s the worst that could happen? They refuse? Well then you’ll move on to somewhere else, but it isn’t worth thinking about it unless it actually happens. So take a deep breath and email your pastor (or priest or whatever). Maybe that’ll be your first step…