Post # 1
So for my wedding reception I really want a lounge-y feel. I want a lot of high top tables, dim lighting, lots of dancing, etc. I want people to be up and moving around and having a good time! For the food.. I really don’t want to do a seated dinner. I would prefer to just offer a lot of different hors d’oeuvres all around the venue. Has anyone ever gone this route and have any advice? My plan is to still offer a lot of different options, but I them in the form of finger foods. I imagine that by going this route of more of a longer cocktail reception that my liquor costs will be significantly higher?
If you have ever done this type of reception or been to a wedding like this please let me know your feedback!
Post # 3
I think wedidngs like this are really fun and laid back, and honestly can be a nice break for guests who have a lot of more traditional weddings that they’re going to in a season.
You said your liquor costs will be higher, which I think would be true, but one thing to note for sure is that your food cost will probably be higher too. Passed hors d’oeurvres are a lot more expensive than you might think. There’s a lot of prep that goes into them, so check around and get some quotes from caterers.
Post # 4
Just make sure that you have enough food to soak up all the booze. I went to a wedding like this that was really fun but there wasn’t a lot of food so everyone ended up getting wasted. Ah fun wedding though.
Post # 5
@TerraMarie11: Have some lounge/club type seating like sectional couches so people can sit and chat. I would have some platters of stationary food like bread and dip, chesse and crackers becuase passed hors. are expensive and not always filling.
Post # 6
I really like this idea and it’s probably what I will be doing too. With a seated dinner, it seems like there’s too much transitioning from one part of the wedding reception to another. The informal, small plates route makes everything flow a bit better and seem less rushed (IMO). As other posters noted, I would minimize passed apps. Pass the apps that are more expensive, since people generally only take one when they are passed, but if left on a table woud shovel 5 onto their plate, and stick with stations for some of the more inexpensive options. I got a quote for this sort of thing, and it was $85/head from a very good caterer. So, depending on where you are, that might be expensive or not expensive, but either way I think it beats a sit down meal.
Post # 7
Thanks all! I am going to have to keep looking into it more.
$85/head seems extremely expensive to me. I work for Ruth’s Chris and we wouldn’t even be anywhere close to that a head for passed/displayed hors d’oeuvres! It might just depend on location though like you said.. I am in the midwest.
Post # 8
@TerraMarie11: Another idea might be to do stations instead of passed appetizers. It can be a bit expensive as well, but it also allows for peopel to get up mingle, roam from station to station and get something and then come back and sit with people talk. A good way to do this, is find a venue that lets you bring in your own caterer and then find caterer’s that do food stations! I found an awesome one here in St. Louis that does great stations, just waiting to hear back from him!
Also remember living in the Midwest isn’t expensive as the West and East coast, but because the food and venue and alcohol are for a WEDDING, the price goes UP!!!
Post # 9
@TerraMarie11: I should have clarified. The $85/person included all the catering costs. Food, servers, bartender, linens, servingware, etc., and also included coffee and dessert. Yes, I think it is high, but the food part of it only comes out to about $35-40 per person, but then you add in everything else which is what really adds up. If you can do it at a restaurant where all the extras are already included it’s always a lot cheaper.
Post # 10
I agree with stations! You can serve more heartier foods that way and ensure that people are full 🙂 Or perhaps a combination of passed hor d’oeruves for cocktail hour and stations for dinner?