(Closed) My relationship is in shambles. We have no intimacy anymore. Please advise

posted 11 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 227
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

secret….im sending my thoughts and prayers to you. i was glad to hear from you on here again. just know that you have the strength to face the road ahead of you and you’ll get through it. the bees are always here for you no matter what. we never judge. we accept you for who are and you should never be ashamed of anything. especially on here. sometimes we just need an outlet and a chance to talk to someone and weddingbee is one of the best places ive ever found for that. the bees on here are all amazing.

Post # 228
368 posts
Helper bee

Secret – you should not feel ashamed or upset about what’s happened. You are a real person with real problems and you were seeking some support or advice from a loving community. Everybody here has gone through tough times before (and will likely go through them again) – there is no shame in admitting a difficult time and asking for help.

I just had a “lightbulb” moment – what if you sharing your story has helped someone else in need?? Maybe asking for help and telling your story has helped another woman (or man) in an abusive situation? You could have very well saved a relationship, or even saved a life. I commend your bravery in speaking out and giving yourself a voice. Best of luck with whatever happens, and stay strong! We’re here to support you no matter what!! 🙂

Post # 229
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Thanks for coming back and letting us know that you’re okay.  There’s no need to feel ashamed.  Life, marriage, these things are complicated.  It can take time to figure out how you feel about things or the best course of action.

Be healthy, be safe, and know that the hive is always here for you.

Post # 230
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We are always here for you, but I still stand by my previous comment: PLEASE do tell at least your family about what’s been going on. You do need to have a physical support group and though things may work out (I truly hope so), please just be kind to yourself and make sure you have a safe, loving place to go to in case things get out of hand. Truly, just make sure you’re safe, or can get somewhere safe. I know you are embarrassed and want this thread to go away, and you’re taking the time necessary to plan out your next moves, but just know that the advice and stories you have heard are from the hearts of many women from all walks of life. The clear message: Please take care of yourself first, create a safety net, and tell someone. I hope things get better for you, but keep your head clear and your senses alert. Love is a powerful thing, and your love for him may trump your love for yourself. Don’t let that happen. Love yourself more.

I wish you a happy, loving life, friend.

Post # 231
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

So glad that you were able to talk to your husband… but I will be praying for you, as I am sure that there will still be some struggles.


Glad you are ok.  

Post # 232
18 posts
  • Wedding: April 2010

Thank you for coming back and posting an update.  Don’t be embarassed or ashamed.  Now you have resources just in case things don’t get better. 

Post # 233
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Glad you’re ok for now. We’re still here for you when/if you need us 🙂

Post # 234
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

wow how intense, hope keepitasecret is ok

Post # 235
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I know I am super late on this but I just wanted to offer some support. It takes a lot of courage just to admit to yourself that there is a problem let alone seeking support for it. I hope everything works out for the best.

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