Post # 32
I might have read it wrong but I think she meant the ceremony will last from 7-730.
OP, I feel bad for you. I know how badly you want everything to be fun and perfect for your guests. I certainly wouldn’t be angry at you if I was at your wedding. I would be a bit hungry I’m sure but not angry. I think that’s silly.
I’ve seen a hot dog cart and also a popcorn machine at wedding venues before (two different weddings). The hotdog cart was outside so guest could have a complimentry hotdog on their way home. The popcorn was inside. It might be something to look into. If your venue allows it maybe you can look into it? I know the price for soemthing like that is about $500ish. Might be cheaper than ordering more apps.
Otherwise, don’t stress out about it. Your day will be lovely.
Post # 33
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@tcanne: Some people can’t help but get angry when they are hungry. Seriously. My FIs blood sugar will drop and he will turn into a moody bastard. Put some food in him and he immediately cheers up. Half the time he acts like an ass, I say, do you need a snack. He gives me daggar eyes and then slumps his sholders and says, yeah, probably, and then problem solved. People won’t be angry on purpose. They’ll be angry because they are hungry and that’s a natural reaction for a lot of people.
Post # 34
I know it’s not what you want to hear, but I agree with all the other posters.
If you’re having this reception on a weeknight, then you need around 10 appetizers per person. Skip the favors and use that money toward your food budget. Or, skip the fireworks and put that money toward your food budget. I personally wouldn’t be able to stay at a reception on a weeknight until 10:30 pmto see fireworks – DH leaves for work at 5am and when I work day shift (I rotate) I have to be at work at 7am, so we are early risers. Many of your guests may also be the same way.
I can guarantee, more people will talk about the food than the fireworks.
I also get snarky when I’m hungry because my blood sugar drops. Especially after working all day, I would be tired too, so put hungry on top of that…be careful.
Post # 35
If I arrived at 6:30 on a weekday, i’d be coming from work, which means i’d be STARVING.
3.2 pieces? What is that, 1 cracker with dip, one carrot, one piece of cheese???? What could your caterer possibly be charging you for what is essentially the veggie dip aisle in the ready to eat section of the grocery store? You don’t need a fancy caterer to put out crackers and dip.
You need more food. Like, way more food.
Post # 36
$29 a dozen! So for 10 dozen, adding 15% gratuity and 125 tax, equals $375
If you are only spending $375 to feed NINETY PEOPLE then something went horribly wrong somewhere. It usually costs my husband and I around $40-50 to eat a dinner out. Multiply that by 45….that’s $2300. For a reasonable amount of food (and that’s when we only drink water and don’t get appitizers!!).
I think your expectations for what $400 should get are super unrealistic. When you are paying for almost 100 people to eat, things multiply really fast. Is $400 a lot of money in general? Yes, Is it a lot of money to feed 90 people? Not even close. I think you need to basically double what you’ve got, and then add in heavy apps like meatballs, crab cakes, soup shooters, etc etc. Otherwise everyone will be leaving at 8pm to go eat and the evening will be wasted…including that $400 you spent on apps.
Post # 37
@crayfish: Yeah, that’s actually a very good price. My appetizers were 3-5 dollars a piece.
3.5 pieces of appetizers per person is really not enough, unless everyone was on a diet.
Post # 38
Oops first post got deleted…
@crayfish: I think OP means 3.2 hot passed apps plus the cheese, crackers, fruit, etc. I do agree though that $400 to feed 92 people is a steal. That being said…
As long as you are not going to be offended if anyone leaves early because they are hungry, I don’t think your menu is too light. And, as long as EVERYONE knows to eat ahead of time. I don’t think its so wrong to ask people to rearrange their dinner plans and eat early one day out of the year. They should have time to run through McDonalds if they have to between your ceremony and work. No one is going to pass out from starvation over this menu. But don’t be too upset if they party dwindles kind of early and people are off to get dinner before bed and work the next day.
Post # 39
@crayfish: no no no… that’s $375 for 10 dozen! We are planning to have 30 dozen, plus all the table food displays, cupcakes etc.
Now, after reading all the comments, I realize we need to bite the bullet and get more like 40 dozen of the passed, and more of the table food.
We’ve asked people to arrive around 6:30 pm for a 7pm ceremony start becaue they will be transported by pontoon boat through the marina to our ferry boat venue. So it will take at least 30 minutes to transport all the guests. I’m expecting the ceremony to have to start late, which is another reason why I don’t want to push it later, because then it will really start even later!
I don’t want anyone hangry at my wedding! lol!
after reviewing our finances this morning, my Fiance and I are feeling a bit better. And with such a gorgeous venue and all the effort and love we are putting into creating this beautiful wedding, we definitely don’t want to fall down on the food. So don’t worry bees I’m hearing you…. MOAR food!! haha..
Post # 40
@MidwestBride2012: I hope I explained my situation well enough above, why we need them to arrive a bit early.
I WISH we could have catered our own wedding. But we couldnt’ find an inspiring venue for that.
I’ll explain my full food order again:
(revised) 50 dozen passed appys – that’s 600 pieces, or 6 pieces per person. Plus cheese board, crackers, breads, trio of dips, raw veggies and dips, 150 cupcakes, and a fruit and dessert display coming out at 9pm.
Surely that’s enough! that’s 20 dozen more that I was expecting. our own fault for inviting more people, Lol!
Our total food and beverage bill is already at $3000!!! that’s why it hurts to add more. but add more we will. gosh darn I hope some of our guests are generous with their gifts! We’ll be broke for a year after this, haha… groan. 🙂
Post # 41
@mtnhoney: the only thing I have to add here is that while you know exactly how many pieces per person you have, your guests don’t. So if your cousin’s fiancé is starving and wants to corner the waiter with the artichoke fritter tray and eat a dozen to himself, your food will go really fast.
That’s usually why I feel more comfortable in that 10-12pp range, it’s just safer and has a better chance of balancing out. Especially of everything will be vegetarian – a lot of people can’t fill up without an animal protein and will keep gorging on carbs until they feel full.
Post # 42
@mtnhoney: I’m glad to hear this! And also, I think it’s awesome that you genuinely considered the advice given to you. It’s kind of rare that I see people asking for advice and actually listening to input and friendly suggestions without getting super defensive. Go you!
Post # 43
It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this, but an app wedding just isn’t really plausible at a mealtime. If that’s all the money you can spend and there is nothing else you can cut ( favors, sparklers, scale down flowers, something) then that’s how it goes. But be aware people are going to be hungry and leave early. I don’t mean to be criticial at all, but it being a Wednesday and no actual dinner and people are going to leave in search of food.
Post # 44
@maraschino: well thanks. Like I mentioned, my Mom is not providing any guidance on this subject, Lol! and my caterer doesn’t seem to care much. She knows we are on a budget.
well we are expecting some people to leave early anyway, since they’ll have to work in the morning.
This is a big jump for us, increasing our food bill from 3K to 4K now, so we can’t stretch any further. So thank you all for the input, but we have to work within our limitations.
Post # 45
Can you do heftier/richer portions of hors d’oeuvres? For example, as I mentioned, we are also doing a vegetarian (vegan actually) cocktail hour/dinner and some of the hors d’eouvres are much more filling than the others. The mushroom risotto for example was a full tiny martini glass full but conversely, we have a one-bite (literally) fig thingy. So it’s kind of hard to say how many pieces per as it will vary depending on the size of them.
Post # 46
@mtnhoney: if it helps your budget at all, you really don’t need 150 cupcakes for 90 people. Most people will only have one, and some won’t have any.