(Closed) my ridiculous Tiffany's problem

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 107
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Bee Keeper

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@womanofsubstance:  Brilliant. Some of the best advice on this thread said in less than a paragraph. 

Post # 108
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@furstwerldprahblems:  oh no I’m sorry I wasn’t offended. It was more of a smiley frown face. Just a jk. I was actually worried I offended you. After I posted I was like, that wasn’t as light hearted as I thought lol. I actually agree that tiffanys is more trendy then luxurious. 

Post # 111
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Busy bee

Eh, tried to post this last night and nothing would work! I suppose the big update was happening while the US was sleeping? Anyway:

 

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@itsmeetam:  There is more to be admired in someone who makes something of themselves  than there is of children riding off their family’s coat-tails. I would rather be tacky “new money” enjoying the heck out of myself and working hard, than pompous “old money”.<br /><br />THIS!!!!!!!! 🙂

I really have nothing to add. You can refer to me as too poor to even get a Tiffany ring! Blue Nile instead 😀 I wonder what it’s like to have heirloom diamonds!!!! 

Post # 110
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

I think you have given this topic very careful consideration, gotten some good ideas and maybe it’s time to close it down and bit it good night. 🙂  I look forward to hearing how this plays out and hearing about the good stuff that will resonate from your engagement and your wonderful partner!

Post # 111
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m so glad that shit like this doesn’t bother me or my family.  So thankful to not be materialistic.

Post # 112
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

Wow. It’s nice to see feelings you have being eloquently laid out like this. My fiancé could never have afforded a ring like that (or in that ‘Tiffany’ price range) but I do think that when I express my er, happiness for others in a way that indicates that their ring is ‘not my style’ they think I am jealous. Turns out I am just a snob, but in an even more subtle and petty way. The old middle class despises the trappings of the aspirational (new) middle class and we hate to be mistaken for them. Probably better to leave them thinking I am jealous, the truth is much more offensive.

Post # 113
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Busy bee

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furstwerldprahblems:  I haven’t read through all the comments so I may be repeating, but this topic interested me. It almost seems like this has nothing to do with your fiancé, or even the ring, but more so of your identity and your personal values as compared to your family. The ring just seems to be a projection of the confusion. Think about what makes you happy, and comfortable.  it’s hard to not want to fit in amongst the family, but sometimes it’s just better to be you. After all, once married you will be living with him, starting a new family. It’s up to you to decide if you want to continue to maintain those “standards” for your children.  

on on a separate note, I work for the VA, so I’m often working with underprivileged and/or homeless veterans. I have a fairly large ring, and it took me a while to be comfortable enough to wear it at work. most don’t even pay attentin, and I’ve learned to not  think too much about what their perception of me may be, but to show them my “worth” in the work I do and the help I can provide them.

Post # 114
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Newbee

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furstwerldprahblems:  it sounds like he pick a ring from a place that a girl who is into tv and pop culture would like the ring to come from. He wanted to give you the best he could.  if you want to return it cause it’s not your style and it doesn’t match your relationship Talk to him about it. If you are returning it to match your families ideas then you need to get a reality check cause your relationship won’t last. 

Post # 115
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Do YOU like the ring he got you?

If yes, then wear it and to hell with what anyone else thinks. You can either not mention where he got it, or be honest about it and if your family says something then you should call them out on their snobbery.

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