- 2 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
So so this is quite a lengthy story, I’ll try to keep it simple.
My my husband proposed to me with a beautiful rose gold and morganite ring last year. It was honestly exactly what I wanted in a ring! I don’t like diamonds at all, they are super generic to me and I just have never felt anything for them. I always wanted rose gold and I always wanted a morganite ring. The ring that he got was vintage inspired and not meant to be an engagement ring. It has a basket as opposed to a normal setting (which I thought was totally Beautiful and unique). However as time went on we discovered that the ring was really not designed for fingers like mine! I had it sized down from a 7 to a 6.5 because it was sliding off of my finger. However when summer came around, my fingers swelled so badly that the ring was almost impossible to take on or off. The same went for whenever I slept. The way that my finger is shaped didn’t work well with the basket on the ring which kind of made my fingers swell even more. After a few months my finger also started to turn green. The ring is made of 14k gold so it’s not an issue with the metal, it was because water was getting trapped under the basket and turning my finger green. And on top of all of this, we found absolutely no wedding bands that would fit with the ring. I liked the gap between the ring and a band at first, but it added to the swelling. Truly this was all a shame because the ring was gorgeous, it just didn’t really work out with my fingers.
So about 9 months before our wedding we purchased a wedding set. It was also in rose gold and morganite, but it was daintier, and had a normal setting. This ring set was absolutely amazing! I loved it! Couldn’t wait to get married and wear the rings together! But just about every few weeks, the center stone was coming loose. It took about 3 trips to the jeweler to have it fixed before we demanded an answer. I couldn’t believe how often we were bringing the ring in to get fixed. 6 weeks before the wedding the jeweler who sold the ring to us told us that becuade of the intricate design on the setting (there were diamonds on the prongs) and because the center stone was morganite, we would likely always have this issue. First of all… NOT OKAY! How could anyone rightly sell a wedding set to a couple knowing that the design isn’t strong enough to last a lifetime… it baffled us..
so without any time to lose we were given the option to exchange, not return the ring set. I wanted desperately to have a ring in time for the wedding, and I wanted that ring to be the one i would wear forever. In the short notice that we had I chose a floral designed ring with a diamond.. it was the only ring in their store that I liked… this is probably my biggest regret ever, (as far as the whole wedding process goes). I loved the set we had, and had I not felt so pressured to make a big decision in the short time we had, I probably would have just kept the set we had and tried to get it professionally altered in the future. I didn’t do this though, and there is now no turning back.
I wore the diamnond ring ring for a few weeks but just didn’t connect with it. It didn’t feel like my ring, and I was outraged that it was not morganite. I cannot stress how much I regretted giving up what we had.. so I took my old engagement ring and got married with that instead. We are approaching our second month of marriage, and granted I still love the beauty of the original engagement ring, my finger cannot handle the swelling anymore! I’ve started only wearing my wedding band (which is actually very beautiful. We were able to find a wedding band that was super similar in design to the band in the wedding set that we had bought. I absolutely love it!) I just can’t wear it with the engagement ring at the same time! Especially during summer.. it sucks to have hands that swell so bad!
I don’t want to size up my engagement ring becuase in the winter it will fall off.. again the basket just doesn’t work for my finger type..
my husband told me he wants me to have a new engagement ring to go with the wedding band we got married with. I am actually super excited to find a new ring, one that I can wear all the time comfortably and one that will last a lifetime! I’ve already found some beautiful rings that we both like and I’m anxious to buy one! My question is how soon would be too soon to upgrade? I don’t really like that word as I’m not doing this to upgrade so to say. I’m just trying to find something that won’t give me problems and that I can wear forever.. but if you were in my shoes, would you feel awkward buying a new ring so soon after the wedding or would just just do what you want without care for what the world thinks?
Thank you for reading.. that was long and obnoxious to write!