(Closed) My ring finally came in–and it's a huge disappointment

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Blushing bee

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dracarys :  I don’t want to answer for the OP, but I don’t see what this has to do with the type of stone she has.

I would be bothered too if the jeweler added a donut around a design that’s not supposed to have one. I’m not sure how much lower that size stone can be set in that style but it does look like some changes were made. That being said, I wouldn’t kick that ring out of bed.

Hopefully the ring can be altered to better suit OP’s tastes.

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

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starla33 :  Terms like “ostentatious” and “cocktail ring” were thrown around. Then it was because the jeweler made changes to the design without consulting OP. OP had to know a 2 ct stone would not look small no matter how it was set. I, too, think it’s gorgeous, but in between all the OP’s statements, I see regrets and I was curious if the regret was getting a large moissanite instead of a large diamond.

ETA: I’m not a moissanite hater. I think they’re beautiful and I actually want one, but I would have an issue wearing one if I really really wanted a diamond. 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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dracarys :  agree 1000%.   Suspect it’s not the setting but how huge the moissanite appears in it. The perceived loss of believability.

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think that setting is beautiful but also pretty ornate in itself and would be better suited to a smaller stone. Given what you want, why not save up for a smaller moissanite to put in that setting? 

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

From what I have read I don’t think OP really knew what the ring was going to look like. Now she does, for whatever reason it’s not what she imagined or wanted. I think the setting and stone are lovely and I think it looks like the jeweler did a good job given that OP wanted ‘that’ setting with ‘that’ stone.

If I was OP I would either suck it up because it is a beautiful ring or I would try and return it groveling saying it’s just not what I wanted or I would sell it. Maybe the jeweler could consign it for her or part ex it for something else?!

 Maybe moving on from this ring in whatever way possible and starting from afresh is what is needed now.

Post # 66
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

At this point I think you need to make this decision with your SO and just let us know the outcome.  You asked in your OP if you should “fight” this, but you seem very defensive about it and unwilling to acknowledge the rationalized points people provided as to why your ring would look different than the stock picture looks.

 

I definitely think it was the jeweler’s responsibility to explain to you the differences you would see in the ring with your stone, specifically the donut they added, before it was made. But you shouldn’t have signed off and taken the ring home if it wasn’t what you were expecting, especially since you stated you both don’t like it and knew that signing off on the ring would make it non-returnable. That’s unfortunately on you, and that sucks, maybe this is why you’re so defensive about it?

 

The only thing you can do is get a 2nd opinion on whether the stone could be set lower, then take it back to the jeweler, be firm but polite, and see what can be done.

 

What are you going to do if the jeweler isn’t willing to work with you and maintains that the ring is non-returnable? Your OP said “I think I’m going to buy a plain setting myself and wear it as a solitaire.” Then in a later response you said you didn’t have enough money to throw around to buy a whole new setting. Maybe ask the jeweler if they can give you a deal on a solitaire setting since you’re so unhappy?

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I actually LOVE your ring and don’t think it’s too much at all. It’s GORGEOUS

Post # 68
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Helper bee

I agree with the majority of pp’s here. Honestly, it seems like you’re really defensive towards anyone who doesn’t share your view that the jeweler is completely in the wrong. Yes, the jeweler should have let you know that the stone wouldn’t sit as low as the 1ct round, or even close.

And, yes it is your responsibility to anticipate that it would be completely different with a 2ct oval stone. The specs of that setting clearly state 6.5mm-1ct center. The jeweler MAY have been able to simply switch out the peg heg for a 1ct oval and make it look more like your vision, but your stone size being twice as large is going to complicate things, as you’ve unfortunately discovered.

Imo, the only way to have gotten exactly what you’re looking for is to go completely custom, with the Gabriel &  Co setting as your inspiration. To have the shoulders in the right place, more diamonds may have to be added so the shoulders can sit wider and higher to accommodate that large a stone, even with it nestled in the way you want.

It really is a beautiful ring. As someone who prefers low settings (I’m always banging my hand on things), i totally “get” that it’s too high for you. If the jeweler isn’t willing or able to do anything for you, maybe you can eventually switch out the center stone with a smaller oval and have the 2ct moissy put in a pendant or nice low solitaire or bezel for the right hand? Good luck

Post # 69
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe I’m in the minority, but you bought a setting designed for a round stone yet had an oval placed in it. Of course it’s not going to be exactly the same. It’s math! I don’t think the jewler is at fault here. Could they have potentially done a better job of explaining what they’d need to do in order to make it work? Sure. But maybe they assumed since you picked this setting instead of choosing one designed for an actual oval stone that you’d want it done no matter what.

You should love your ring, but it sounds like going the custom route would probably have been the way to go. I think it’s one of those situations where you learn from a costly mistake.

Post # 70
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Helper bee

… So you said you can’t return it because it’s “custom” after you changed the stone, right?  So make it CUSTOM!  Make them finish your CUSTOM ring the way you see fit!  Have them fix it!!  Throw it back on them, right?  Just a thought. 

Post # 71
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Bumble bee

It is beautiful – and yes – it is high and “here is my ring!” But some people rather love that cathedral style. Can you contact the jeweller and ask if they can exchange it for a lower setting? Ultimately, you want to love it and wear it to work! If this isn’t going to work then best to switch it to something that will. It is magnificent though. Wow.

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

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dracarys :  I see what you mean. I like moissanite, too, but the ovals don’t look anything like diamond regardless of the size IMO, so I wonder if it would have anything to do with that. Of course a 2ct oval diamond would also look huge…

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

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aclockworklilac :  way to not even address the question and immediately take offense. Maybe you missed the part where I said I wanted one? Guess who else doesn’t have 10K or even 5k on her finger 🙋🏻 Also, butter is not a carb.

Girl, bye. 

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

 

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aclockworklilac :  it looks lovely, and not weird or gaudy.  Rock it.

Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I love the ring! I know you think it looks big, but it’s a 9×7 oval – that’s a big stone no matter what setting its in. Even if it was in a lower setting, it’s still going to look large. I wouid take it to the jeweler and tell them you would like to try to lower the stone if possible. It could mean they modify the head – changing the way it looks a bit – but I think it can be lowered. The real question is – do you think it looks like it’s too much because if the height, or the size of the stone? 

Post # 78
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Blushing bee

I think it’s one of the most beautiful rings I’ve ever seen. The space at the bottom allows light through, and it makes it far easier to clean. I think it makes an elegant statement, regal without being ostentatious or gaudy. Having said that, you need to love your ring. I hope it all works out for you!

Post # 79
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Sugar bee

It’s a lovely ring.  Please be mindful that by calling it ‘gaudy’ you may be causing bees with similar rings to feel defensive. 

That said  . . . I’m sorry you’re disappointed and that your dream ring doesn’t match the vision in your head.  However, I am also having a hard time reconciling your self-description of “subtle” with someone who purchases any kind of 2 carat stone or a fancy catherdal setting  Even in a low, bezel setting, a 2 carat stone is going to be pretty honking large! (And I say this as someone whose dream ring is a 2 to 2.5 carat bezel).  

Frankly, I’d have expected your Fiance, the structural engineer, to have expected the kind of changes the jeweler had to make, to accomdate a stone of a different size and shape.  Keep in mind how different a round briliant and oval cut look, when viewed from the side.  I also think the jeweler messed up by not providing CADs or even some sketches. 

I’m not a jeweler, but if you want a more subtle looking ring, maybe you can swap your stone for a smaller stone, or perhaps consider a round stone since you seem really focused on how the round brilliant was set in the original ring.  

I hope you’re able to find a ring tha makes you happy.  And may I say, kudos to you for wanting to make sure the salesperson doesn’t lose their commission?  That’s very classy of you.  🙂  

Post # 80
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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aclockworklilac :  Oh I’m so glad it worked out for you that they’re giving you a refund!! That’s fantastic news. Honestly I’m surprised they did the right thing, I would’ve expected you to end up stuck with that completely different ring. I think the Bees on this thread must’ve had too much eggnog because they clearly lost their vision! Not to mention some women being super rude to you. I hope you ignore the bitchitude that went down on this particular thread and come back to update when you get your new ring!

And if you’re looking for a custom design to achieve the *actual* look of the ring you wanted, this board can recommend jewellers who do great custom work. Although after the way they fixed things, I’d be tempted to work with your local jeweller again. Good luck!

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