(Closed) My ring finally came in–and it's a huge disappointment

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Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Also, for the record, a 2 ct ring can most certainly be more or less subtle depending on the setting. Just because a stone is a nice size (and 2 ct isn’t *that* big) doesn’t mean it can’t also be understated and elegant. The setting makes a huge difference.

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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valintine :  I haven’t seen ANY Bees be rude. Pointing out the problems with the setting vs the OP’s vision is not rude. It’s pointing out things she either may not have thought about or was too caught up in what her expectations were. She was the one that didn’t agree with what the vast majority of the responses were telling her.

I am suprised the jeweler is giving you a full refund but I’m glad it’s working out.

What I meant to say in my previous post but forgot to, was my Fiance and I looked at a lot of Gabriel & Co settings and he almost bought one (he picked out my ring). The reason he went with a different designer was because G&Co did not make a setting to fit the size diamond he bought and the jeweler warned against trying to fit too big a stone into a smaller setting. I also have to disagree with your statement that settings are just not made for round stones. Unless the designer’s site specifically says a setting can be made to accomodate other shapes, I would assume they would not.

I too have an engineering degree and I see the donut in a lot of settings. I don’t think G&Co not disclosing that is really altering the setting.

Lesson learned. Next time I would be sure to try on settings that have ovals in them already so you can be sure to get the look you want.

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Glad it all worked out. Make sure you get a CAD or sketch or something next time around to avoid unnecessary miscommunication and headaches like this.

Post # 84
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Helper bee

I am glad that your jeweler is willing to refund you for the cost of the ring. It is probably irrelevant now, but I went to Stuller’s website to see if there are any 4 prong peg heads for a 9×7 oval similar to the original head and I could not find any available in that size. There is however a six prong oval head that is more in line with the style of the original prongs available in 9×7. Since you were already planning to have a curved band, If you like it, perhaps this head might possibly work in your setting. If you really love this ring (all of it except the basket G&CO used to set your stone) it might be worth checking with your jeweler, or a different jeweler, to see if this six prong head will fit in the setting. Best of luck to you!

Post # 85
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Bumble bee

I agree with other bees that you’ve been extremely defensive and only reply to the ones who seem to agree with you about the setting.  In your update it’s clear they explained VERY clearly to you how the setting would be changed both for structure and for height.  If you have a 2 ct. oval sitting in a setting for round, of course it’s going to lift it – the extra space is because the prongs can’t shoot out at that angle.

Furthermore the comments about diamonds are because you yourself called the ring “gaudy” and looks like a “cocktail ring”.  What do those phrases imply?  To me it implies you think the stone looks “fake”.  Well, getting a 2 ct. stone is going to do that.  A 2 ct. diamond is – what – $15,000?  I would’ve gone for a 1 ct. or less if you’re worried about looking “gaudy”.  In fact a 0.75 ct. diamond over 2 ct. any stone, any day.  Then you wouldn’t have these insecurities.

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Glad you got your money back. The issue could be that moissy doesn’t look exactly like a diamond. The ovals even less so. The bigger it is the more noticable. Maybe you could sell the 9×7 moissanite you bought for a smaller one. I got mine very cheaply on eBay. Or save for a real diamond. If you add a halo even a smaller real diamond will look bigger. Good luck bee.

 

Post # 89
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Busy bee

That ring is gorgeous. If you don’t like it, that’s your prerogative but it’s stunning.

Post # 90
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Busy bee

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aclockworklilac :  glad you were able to get this taken care of in the manner you would adore. ❤

Post # 91
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Helper bee

Glad to here they did the right thing by you! If you decide to start over with another jeweler, i suggest Ivyandrose.com, they have a sho on etsy and ebay.. I’ve heard nothing but good things about them on the bee and i also got my setting from them (had my stone set locally).  They do a lot of custom work too. Here’s something that would fit your stone, and low set. Its nothing like the one you love tho. There’s someone on the bee who has a sapphire in this setting and it’s gorgeous.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/240614694/9x7mm-vintage-antique-oval-halo-setting?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=9×7%20oval%20mount&ref=sr_gallery_4

 

http://ivyandrose.com/g-h-vs-round-diamond-oval-halo-platinum-engagement-ring-setting-cocktail-vintage.html

 

Post # 92
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

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valintine :  I agree with you.  I have a 2.2ct diamond oval and opted for a very thin knife edge plain bad.  I will use similar think bands to stack for my wedding sets.  I think a ring is all about the setting, not necessarily the size of the diamond.

Post # 93
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

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aclockworklilac :  even though I think your ring is beautiful you should LOVE what you have on your finger.  I do think the jeweler should have explained to you what the difference would be.  You should not be expected to know the logistics of everything.

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Post # 94
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

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valintine :  I so agree with you!!! I wasn’t SHOCKED at how mean and bitchy some of these responses were!!! 

 

OP please ignore anyone who is sitting too high on their self made thrones.  You don’t deserve that!

Post # 95
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it’s very difficult to imagine things that are described without being able to see them in person. I had my first engagement ring (from first marriage) lowered from the super high cathedral setting it came in, and there were many problems in communication and actual worksmanship.  This was from a chain jeweler before I really knew any better.  My Fiance bought my current ring online and, although it is beautiful, I realized that I cannot do prongs.  I caught it on everything and scratched my son twice.  We then took the ring to a small local jeweler and he designed a custom ring based on my description of what I liked.  He made a wax mold which I was able to try on, and even re-work that when I was concerned about how high the setting still seemed to be.  I ended up with a low bezel setting that I can wear every day and not worry about banging it around or getting it caught.  My wedding band will have a small gap, but I actually like that look.  If you have a design in your mind that you would like to have created, I suggest going to a small jeweler used to doing custom work who will make wax molds before creating the finished product.  You should be happy with something that you intend on wearing forever!  Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 96
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m glad to hear that you’re getting your money back and will be able to find a setting that suits you better. My setting is custom made and I requested that the stone be set as low as possible into the band. I’ve got an opening at the base of my ring and the bottom of the stone hovers in there. My sapphire is about 8mm deep and because of the style of my band/setting, my ring is only about 8mm (maybe a smidge more) in height.

I thought it looked a little squat when I first got it (especially compared to the setting my SO used to propose), but I love it now and I still manage to bump it more than I’d like.

Post # 97
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

 I really like your ring. No, I don’t think it looks like you are trying to be an ostentatious witch who wants to wave her ring in everyone’s face, no not at all. That is me making fun, that’s all.

You are just feeling the difference between the real thing, and what was in your mind. Nerves is all. 

Post # 100
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

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aclockworklilac :  Thank you!

It’s 8mm- almost 3 carats in weight but sizes up like 2 carats.

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