(Closed) My ring has a visible inclusion I just noticed and I can't unsee it! What to do?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I try and exchange my ring?
    YES, that would bother me too : (34 votes)
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    NO, keep the original ring and get over it : (109 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee

    I really cant see anything in the pic.  Do you have one from another angle?

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Honestly, I would keep your ring. Down the road you can upgrade the center stone. It’s not dishonest to sell a lower clarity stone, and it sounds like you would have had to get a much smaller rock at the same price to upgrade the clarity. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    If I didn’t know to look for a spot, I wouldn’t even see it. Don’t stress; your ring is absolutely stunning and anyone who makes a comment about it is looking way too hard for things to criticize.

    Post # 6
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    2176 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I see it but felt like I was playing Where’s Waldo. Your ting is beautiful!  No one would be looking at your ring with the Eagle Eye that you use. He isn’t willing to look into changing things out so for now I say just enjoy it and try not to worry about it. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    That looks pretty big for being under 2k. I agree that the clarity is likely what brought the price down. Have you tried looking at diamonds on James Allen to get a feeling for what size/specs would fall in your budget if you chose to trade out the diamond (keeping in mind that buying online is typically cheaper)?

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I didn’t tell my fiancé anything about rings or what I wanted or anything like that. He custom designed my ring with a jeweler but bought the diamonds separately (in a different setting) from somewhere else. I have no idea where he went, what he paid, etc. He may have overpaid a bit, I’m not sure. He made his own decisions with his money, and I LOVE my ring.

    The first time we brought the ring into a jeweler to have it resized, they mentioned that there’s a chip on the center stone. They just wanted to let us know in case we didn’t already, which we didn’t. My fiancé didn’t say much but I could tell he was embarrassed. But honestly, I don’t care. my ring is mine. It’s unique to me. The stone is beautiful, and you REALLY can’t tell there’s anything wrong with it unless you look under a microscope. I know it’s there, but it’s never bothered me. 

    What matters to me is that I have something from the man I love that has so much meaning behind it. He put his heart into this ring, and I really think it just makes it even more special. I think of it as my diamond’s beauty mark, and it’s part of what makes it unique to me (:

    Try giving it a better spin to make yourself feel better. If you don’t focus on it, you won’t notice it. Plus, like others have said, I can only see it in the picture because I zoomed in and knew where to look. And honestly, if your mom says something about it and tells you to return it, that’s really crappy of her. For all you know, your fiancé knows about the inclusion but wanted that ring for you. It is JUST a ring, after all. It’s a material object. Remember the meaning behind it. 

    Here’s my ring. You can see the chip in this picture, on the lefthand side of the center stone, right in the middle of the prongs. It looks like a little black dot. 

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper

    For the record?  I had to STARE [stick my face into the monitor] to find it.
    Don’t sweat the small stuff, the real stress of planning and executing this shin dig is about to get real.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I honestly like the little flaws. It makes your diamond unique, like a birth mark or finger print. If you had a totally flawless diamond, what’s stopping a skeazy jeweler from switching out your diamond with a CZ or diamond stimulant when you take it in for cleanings, mainten etc? I’m not saying it’ll happen but it can! At least you’ll always know that diamond is yours! 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee

    I can see it but it’s very small, and I only noticed it because I knew it existed and went looking for it. I guarantee no one but you will be looking closely enough at your ring to notice that.

    Post # 14
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    1688 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Keep it. It’s not noticeable to anyone but you. My sapphire has a visible inclusion, and although that’s really common in unheated sapphires, it did bother me at first. Now, I don’t care at all. It adds a bit of character to the stone and doesn’t detract from the beauty at all.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper

    that looks like a lot of bling for the budget so to get a higher clarity stone you may have to go down in size/colour. 

    I can’t see it in your ring. Unless someone knows about diamonds and studies it on your finger, who’d even know?

    i know you’re the one who’s got to love it but if you look on james Allen for example youll see what your money will buy so they’d have to be some compromise somewhere (and remember you’ve got the setting to add on as well as the cost of the diamond).  Unless there’s unlimited funds you’ll always need to decide what’s important.  If you’d rather have a much smaller solitaire with great clarity and colour then perhaps consider a swap but you may well miss your gorgeous setting and generous stone size  

    my guy basically studied the 4cs like a thing possessed to get the best value when buying my ring and he bought smart and did a cash deal so I know he got top bang for his buck. You know the reality though? one person ever in real life who’s into diamonds has discussed the cut or anything with me. Most of the time if people make comment it’s all ‘wows’ and other positive things. I’ll bet you’ll get the same. It’s very blingy. 

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