(Closed) My ring has a visible inclusion I just noticed and I can't unsee it! What to do?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I try and exchange my ring?
    YES, that would bother me too : (34 votes)
    24 %
    NO, keep the original ring and get over it : (109 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 16
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    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    soontobemissescavey:  Thank you! Like I said, I love my ring (: And you should love yours! Believe me, it’s just as beautiful! Try not to focus on one spot. 

    Post # 17
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    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    I have a fairly large smokey carbon mark inclusion that I feel you can see really well. For a second it bugged me but by thethird day I kinda started to like it. Its like its only little charater or beauty mark. I think it gives it personality and I can easily identify it asmy own. My fiance finally noticed too after almost a month and says he likes it. It doesnt look cloudy or anything just a little blurred black line. Anyways, lol,I say learn to love the imperfections. I get it I’mstill learning too. And asa for your mom, its not her ring therefore not hers to return and not herplace to say your ring from your fiance is not good enough. Good luck!

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee

    I honestly cant see your inclusion but I also have an inclusion in my ring that I think is noticeable so I understand. Ultimately we are our own worst enemies when it comes to this because no one will be looking at our rings as much as we do ourselves. Most people give it a quick glance and then forget about it. I love my inclusion though, it makes the ring ‘mine’ in a way, like it has more character. I also like that I could pick my ring out of a lineup of diamonds and I think that makes it more special to me. I think you should give your ring some time and I hope you come to love it- it truly is a beautiful ring! 

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    soontobemissescavey:  I have an inclusion in mine and I actually kinda like it! It’s very cool to think that there was coal under so much pressure, the diamond was formed and left a little piece of coal behind.

    I think it’s awesome. 

    I can barely tell in the picture.  I only see it becuase I know what mine looks like so I was looking hard for it.  Do you think anyone’s going to really notice?

     

    Post # 20
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    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Get over it. I have a dark inclusion in the middle of my diamond, and I still love my ring. I have a great husband, a beautiful house, and I never go hungry. It would take a lot more than a speck on my diamond to get my panties in a twist.

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee

    How many carats is that? I can’t imagine you getting anything eye clean that is comparable in size unless you go much lower in color and sacrifice cut. But I understand how you feel, a dark inclusion under the table would drive me crazy. 

    Post # 23
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    2443 posts
    Buzzing bee

    This is the exact reason I stressed clarity to my fi. His brother was getting engaged and showed me the ring and there was a white inclusion that I couldn’t unsee. I know if it was on my finger it would have driven me nuts. With that being said, his brother picked out the diamond because of the deal he got on it. I sacrificed a smaller stone for a better clarity. 

    I think only you an figure out if you can live with it. Would you be willing to give up the size of your stone? Because based on your budget idt you could get the same size. I personally could not live with it. 

    Post # 24
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    494 posts
    Helper bee

    soontobemissescavey:  I would keep it if I were you and embrance your diamonds’ beauty mark!  That mark is a symbol of how long it took to grow into what it is, and a reminder of where it came from.  I personally think inclusions are really cool 🙂

    Post # 25
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    7369 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I can’t see “it”.

    Post # 26
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Rock Island Lake Club

    I have an inclusion too.  Somedays it’s all I see when I look at it, and somedays I don’t even notice it.  I love my ring though, and wouldn’t change it.  I like to think that I’m not perfect, and neither is my ring… but its perfect for me 🙂

    Post # 27
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I have a small inclusion in my ring that bothered me at first, but now I see it as a way to always be able to identify my diamond. I put a lot of sentimental attachment into my ring so I learned to love it. Hope this helps!

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    soontobemissescavey:  return it and get something that makes YOU happy. It is your ring and you should be able to do what you want with it. Or KEEP the setting and change the stone. I went through the same thing and after talking it over with my fiance we returned it and made them send out another one for us to see. My fiance did not study the 4 C’s and the stone was I2 and It was a very cloudy stone. 

    Post # 29
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    777 posts
    Busy bee

    Let me start out by saying I have mild OCD and I am extremely picky about everything I have and everything I do must be perfect. I search for flaws in all my stuff and if I find anything I usually do whatever I can to return it or exchange it or fix it, it actually is a bit of a struggle of mine.

    anyways, my Darling Husband bought my e ring from my friends mom and about three days after I got it I noticed a feather inclusion in it, something you can notice if you are pointed to it. I thought it was my fault and spent months fixated over it, staring at it, writing posts about it here and asking what I should do. And then real life started, I got my wedding band, I started planning a wedding and then being a wife and I realized that this was something so small and I ended up looking at it as the perfect inclusion of my ring, it’s my ring, my diamond, unlike anyone else’s. 

    Believe me, I know you are fixated on it now and I know it’s all you can see and that it might even put a damper on it right now, but one day you’ll realize you’ve stopped looking at it all together and you won’t even notice because it’s not the big thing going on in your life, real life will take over and you’ll have much more to worry about and do then focus on a small dot in your diamond! You won’t get a perfect diamond, not unless you’ve got big money, and if you can notice that little dot you will find a problem in any diamond, even the vs categories, trust me! Just learn to love it and before you know it, you will!

    Post # 30
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    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

     

    stoked.stokes:  if there is a chip in your stone i hate to say it one big bang by mistake will make the stone shatter.. I hope you take that into consideration . My stone had a chip and the jeweler we went to ordered another stone and told us if we not had brought in earlier and something happened nothing would have been done for us. I would be very careful with your ring. It is beautiful 

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