Post # 1
Long story, but my fiance’s mom got my wedding rings in Morocco 4 1/2 years ago. I went to resize my wedding band today since our wedding is on 12, 12, 12 only to find out the diamonds aren’t real and it isn’t gold, but another metal that has been gold plated. Also the ring is so worn that the claws need fixing before the fake diamonds fall out. I didn’t know the ring wasn’t new! The jeweler won’t resize a gold plated ring, so I can’t wear this one for my wedding (and I don’t want to wear it now anyway!) I am gutted. My fiance says he didn’t know the ring wasn’t gold.
When my fiance proposed 4 1/2 years ago, I hated this wedding band and the engagement ring he gave me. They looked cheap and didn’t match. At the time we were both in university and didn’t have the money for a set I wanted. I postponed the marriage.
I had the engagement ring resized last year and it appears to be gold but has fake diamonds. I learned about the fake diamonds in this ring today. I decided today this ring won’t be a part of my wedding ceremony, just like the band. I have 2 CZ rings, one silver and one gold that I got myself and might use one of these for the marriage. I am also considering using a wedding ring given to me by another man. At least it is gold/diamond! I might wear a heart shaped diamond/gold ring my mom bought me! I just want something that looks half decent until I can afford to buy my own rings next year.
If I had of known this before buying my dress and booking the castle for my wedding, I might have postponed things. Now it is too late to postpone.
When I get some more time I can post pictures of the rings I have. I have the princess cut ivory dress, a Victorian castle and no wedding rings! Some day I think I will be laughing at this story! I told my fiance today I could make my rings out of candy!
Thanks for reading! xoxo
Post # 3
You wanted to postpone your wedding because your rings are “real”?
Post # 4
I think she means she would have saved for a diamond?
Post # 6
“I am also considering using a wedding ring given to me by another man.”
Don’t do this :/ I think the candy rings are a better idea at this point.
We can’t afford our ideal rings either so we’re getting gold bands right now and we’re going to save up for our ideal rings as we build our life together 🙂 We plan on having a renewal of the vows for when we get our fancy rings. A gold band isn’t terribly expensive, especially off Amazon 😛
Post # 7
@vanislegal: Im still baffled at your Future Mother-In-Law buying your ring…
Post # 8
@boiledpnut: My band is not gold nor diamond and can’t be resized because the claws are worn out and it isn’t gold or silver. In other words I can’t wear it to my wedding. It is too small. I don’t call the ring real because it isn’t gold and is so cheap it can’t be resized. It is basically costume jewelry.
Post # 9
First off (( HUGS )) because I know this must be heart-breaking news.
I know I’d be shaken.
It sounds like you have a variety of solutions / work arounds at your disposal.
BUT I also took from the beginning part of your post when you spoke about the rings, that the symbolism of having a Wedding Ring (one you’ll LOVE forever) is very important to you.
IF that is the case… then you might want to look at buying a plain gold W-Band. You can do so quite inexpensively at Jewellery Stores, On-Line or even Second Hand (Pawn Shop – Antique Store etc)
I know there have been Bees who have found gold W-Bands in the under $ 100 range (10 Kt) to under $ 200 range (14 Kt) thru on-line websites in the past (probably are such topics here on the WBee RING Board)
In this way you can have a W-Band that can serve you well your whole life. Something simple that you could wear with a more elaborate E-Ring in the future… or even combined with an E-Ring and a matching W-Band set.
Going very thin and very plain… will give you a lot of options… wear it alone (good for occasions when wearing Diamonds might not be best)… wear it with your E-Ring… or wear all 3 stacked.
If you GOOGLE – stacked rings – you’ll see lots of great images of this trend.
Hope this helps,
EDIT TO ADD… And I agree with the other Bees… I’d NEVER consider wearing a W-Band from another man (too wierd). That is unless it was a family heirloom that was handed down to me from within my own family or my Fiance’s… so I’d be ok if it was say My Gramma’s W-Band, or his Gramma’s or even… my Grampa’s W-Band, or the Groom’s Dads (lol I’m one of those gals who don’t see Men’s Jewellery as being just gender specific… I actually like / own a lot of stuff that was originally made for men)
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vanislegal: Re- Reply # 9 you said,
@maspa: Well me too! I don’t hold it against her, but will be buying my own rings and won’t be involving my then husband.
Which I assume was a reply in regards to the Question as to why your Future Mother-In-Law bought your rings.
OK… Now I am confused. Not sure what you mean by saying you won’t be involving your then (future) husband.
WHY NOT… I mean, you are Engaged / Marrying him… he’s the one who should make this wrong right.
Like the other poster, I’m beginning to feel there is more to this story… things don’t jive.
I personally wouldn’t be marrying a man who couldn’t “take care of this bit of business” on his own. IF a ring is to be part of the Wedding Ceremony… in that he gives it to you (the exchange of rings) then it is symbolic of the fact that he is making you his wife / providing for you… buying a ring would certainly be an important part of that gesture / symbolism IMO
Post # 12
To be perfectly honest, I’m confused. Just because the ring wasn’t gold and diamond, doesn’t make it any less meaningful. The ring is a symbol of his promise of love and fidelity. That’s not fake.
Post # 13
TO abbie017: good point.
When I said in my OP that I’d be shaken… I meant finding out that what I thought were Diamonds weren’t
Not that I paid for them and got ripped off… but probably someone else did (my Fiance ?)
As has been said here on WBee countless times… one doesn’t need a ring to have a Wedding (or that a Ring does not a marriage make). And many a gal has said on the WAITING BOARD… just propose… I don’t care what the ring is.. just propose already !!
Post # 14
@this-time-round: I’d be livid to find out my Fiance got ripped off, so I totally get that sentiment. I guess I don’t see her frustration to be stemming from the being ripped off aspect, but rather, from the fact that it was fake and she had been wearing, as she put it, “costume jewelry.”
Post # 15
call me shallow but I wouldn’t want imitation gold or diamonds for my ring either. I’d get a thin sold gold band and save up for an anniversary set. Why not sell the ring from the ex & use the funds for something genuine.
Post # 16
that is so unfortuante 🙁 i’d use a stand in silver/cz ring of a design i’d like to have the real one in, sort of a stunt double i guess. nobody can tell anyway