(Closed) "My ring is dirty"

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Busy bee

are you saying that you hate their ring and they can read it on their face? If you have a bad Omer fave stop asking to see their rings or talking about their emgagememy. I think most gorks would rather you not inquire, then faking interest. 

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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princessandthepear:  sounds like you are coming off as judgmental and hurting feelings. I’d fix that ASAP. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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princessandthepear:  Why does their ring come up when you meet them the first time? If you can’t handle giving a polite compliment without making it clear that you’re somehow disgusted by a piece of jewelry, then don’t say anything about their ring. 

If they say “wow I love your ring!” you can just say thank you. Or you can learn to say “thanks, yours is pretty too!” with a smile. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Why do you feel the need to bring up the engagement ring of every woman you meet? Seems strange you would go out of your way to do this, and then lie. Just don’t bring it up…simple as that.

Post # 6
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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princessandthepear:  I think this is a classic “American” woman social thing. I mean I could be wrong, but I notice this a lot too. A compliment is always received with a “put down” instead of a thank you to make them seem like less of a braggart. 

Examples:

“I love your jeans!” – “These old things? I got them for $5 at Walmart!” 

“I love your hair!” – “Really? It needs a touch up so badly.”

“Hey! Good job on your presentation!” – “The intro could have been stronger”

etc. etc. etc.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I think shes saying when she meets engaged ladies that have o n an e-ring, and says… Oh I like your ring, the usual reply is.. its dirty I have to clean it.  

 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Do you just give the ring a glance, or are you really throroughly looking at it? For me personally, the longer the amount of time someone spends inspecting my ring, the more uncomfortable I get.

 

Post # 10
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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whoa_its_ash:  I don’t think she meant the post to come off like that. More like why don’t people just say thank you? Why do they have to always say “Oh it’s so dirty” … ? 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I think a simple “congratulations!” Is the route to go if you have a bad poker face. I’ve never said “omg how rude she didnt even ask to see my ring. How tacky”. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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FutureDrAtkins:  is right.  It’s the way we handle complements, we don’t want to should vain or materialistic. So we put it down a little. It’s like Chinese mothers cooking. “Wow this is the best soup Ever!” “oh its to salty” 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

yeahhh, so you should probably not bring up people’s rings when you are first meeting them. I get uncomfortable when people try to grab my hand and stick my ring in their face when they are just meeting me. I have people do that sometimes in the supermarket or just randomly and immediately I start to wonder if its dirty and looks good or if they are looking because they think its gross, so saying “it’s dirty” would probably be my first line of defense too.

My ex-friends fiance did that to everyone which is one of the reasons I no longer talk to either of them. She was obsessed with rings, weddings and people’s personal lives and would always engage people in conversations about their things and then make a face or a rude comment about it after she engaged them in it. Don’t be that girl.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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princessandthepear:  No prob! I got what you meant, because I actually said that just the other day! Granted, my ring WAS very dirty. I guess it’s just the way I was brought up. Don’t flash your money/material possessions/success in other people’s faces. Be humble. And always have room in your life for improvement.

FWIW, I don’t think you’re coming off “wrong” at all by taking an interest in newly engaged women’s rings when you’re newly engaged yourself. And yes, the novelty of the ring does wear off. I’m not as diligent with cleaning anymore and I’d say more than once a week I forget to put it back on after the shower and go out and about with my day ringless (*clutches pearls* the horror!!)

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