Short version: My ring has not yet turned up.
Long version: I called the insurance company to officially open a claim as ther rep said it would be better to open one and close it than wait and open it. She was very nice and didn’t seem to think the circumstances of my ring going missing were weird at all; she said most of their losses are either in the person’s home or their car.
The rep said because I lost the ring at the brother’s house, they would have to talk to them. So I texted FI’s brother and his wife and asked if it was OK that the insurance company would call them. They both said it was fine. FI’s brother also told me that they took the mattress off the frame, moved the bed and the night stand and went over the guest bedroom again. It sounded like his wife was being helpful.
I got a call yesterday from a different rep, the one that talked to both FI’s brother and SIL. This guy wasn’t quite as nice, as he kept grilling me over and over about my story. He asked several times the last place I saw my ring, I’m guessing to make sure I didn’t change the facts. He didn’t say what FI’s brother or SIL told him. I asked if we could wait a few days to see if it turned up; his response was that if it didn’t turn up by now, it’s probably not going to, but we agreed he would follow up with me next week. I still feel sick about this and keep asking myself how it could just get lost like this.
We all had decided before Fiance and I came back home that we were going to keep it on the low down with their family. I really like his family but they are sometimes really into each other’s business (and thus why Fiance lives out of state). We should have known that this wouldn’t be kept a secret, so we started getting calls from his siblings and his parents last night – his brother told everyone. Since I still feel like an idiot, I really didn’t want to be judged by them, but everyone so far has been very nice about it (well, at least to my face). They all feel so bad about it and most think the dog is involved somehow.
However, FI’s older sister wasn’t so quick to blame the dog. Her brother’s wife isn’t her favorite person in the world as she thinks she treats her brother like crap and he is whipped on her (there’s a lot of other stuff that I learned last night). Long story short, the older sister heard from her brother that he was upset that his wife was acting rude toward us staying there, even though it was originally her idea. The brother has been the one going through the dog’s poop and his wife’s general attitude has been “oh well”. They had their cleaning lady come yesterday and she didn’t even mention to her that my ring was missing and to keep an eye out for it. When the brother asked why she didn’t say anything, her response was “I forgot”. She’s been “helping” when asked, but it didn’t sound like she was going out of her way. I don’t know, maybe my expectations are too high, but if someone lost their engagement ring in my home, I would be doing everything I could to find it. So while FI’s older sister didn’t accuse her of taking it, she doesn’t trust her.
My Fiance, hearing that his older sister (who he is very close to) doesn’t trust the SIL, has put him in a really bad mood. He wants to call his younger brother; what he would say, I don’t know, but I don’t him not to say anything since he was upset. I’m still holding out hope that she’s not involved. I told my Fiance if she tried to sell it, she’s not going to get what it’s worth, and then she would have to explain where she got a boatload of cash (she’s a teacher and their money is totally combined). He also then told me some more background with her and it’s not like his family hates her, but she’s not “their favorite person”.
I haven’t said anything to my family yet but I am sure they will ask when I see then this weekend where my ring is. My Fiance thinks I should tell them but I’m still so embarrassed. I don’t have a stand in so I’ve been wearing a sapphire ring that I already had on my left hand.
So I’m kind of at a stand still until next week. FI’s brother said he’s going to look under the stove and the refrigerator tonight, in case the dog did take it and it somehow got there. The dog has been normal; she’s not acting sick or in pain and since nothing has turned up in her poop she most likely did not eat it. She acts like a cat sometimes and likes to bat her food around (she’s just over a year old) so he’s thinking maybe she thought it was a toy and is batting it around the house. He obviously does not think his wife is involved.
Edit – I think part of my frustration is that *I* cannot look for it. Like it is literally out of my hands (no pun intended). I have to rely on someone who clearly really couldn’t care less. She did text me earlier and said she went through the dog’s bed again and didn’t find anything and how sorry she was this happened. I would like to think she’s got to know that she’s not the favorite family member so she would not intentionally take it. If anything, if it wasn’t the dog, she will magically find it and become the hero, and thus look better in their eyes.