(Closed) My roommate can hear me having sex (THROUGH A WALL)

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@notagain:  You had sex while she was IN THE SAME ROOM?  The solution is…don’t do that. 

Post # 4
8439 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@peachacid:  +1, unless you guys are into that.

Post # 5
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@notagain:  Did she hear you from outside or did you have sex while she was there in the same room?

Post # 6
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You should not be having sex while your roommate is in the room.  That is rude and disgusting.  I had a roommate that used to do that to me.  Once I found her underwear in my bed.  If you don’t want people to think much of you, this is a start.  I hope you don’t do it again.  You should feel embarassed.  Maybe then you won’t put someone in that position again.  You should also really apologize to her for being so out of line.

Post # 7
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

What. In the same ROOM?! Yes, you should feel embarassed! You don’t do that!

If she was elsewhere and you were in the room and she heard you through the door, then don’t worry about it. But if it was the same room then WTF?!?!

Post # 9
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

DUDE. WTF were you thinking!?

You and your roommate need to talk about this. Not cool. Come up with a set of rules.

Post # 10
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@notagain:  I have been the roommate who could hear the sex multiple times. Honestly, when you move in with someone, you expect to hear a little bit of stuff occasionally. In the case of former roommates of mine, it was almost nightly and their boyfriends were practically living with us (and not paying a cent of rent money). I was annoyed, but we were in different rooms.


You shouldn’t be having sex with someone if your roommate is in the same room. I think that’s a huge breach of roommate etiquette. As unromantic as it sounds, it wouldn’t be hard to send a text saying “hey, _____ is coming over on ________day night for a little bit. Would you mind coming home an hour later that night?” She’ll get the hint. And if that night doesn’t work for her, you shouldn’t have the guy over. 

Post # 11
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I had a roommate in college that had sex on the bunk underneath me! I was so embarassed to say like, “Hey, can you stop?” that I just let it go on. But on a bunk bed you can FEEL EVERYTHING!!! So awkward. She also used to lock me out of the room when I went to take a shower so she could have sex with her boyfriend. 

Post # 12
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

The title should really read, “My Roommate Can WATCH Me Having Sex”

…and that is just kooky right there…no way to unring that bell..

Next time shell out for a hotel room or something, geez

Post # 13
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yeah I’d just have a frank discussion with her. Maybe keep a calendar on the wall where you post upcoming dates for each other so the other person has an opportunity to make other plans. It happens a lot in dorms. Not a major problem but you do need to be very open and considerate so you don’t keep running into this embarrassing situation where you’re both in the room!

Post # 14
7482 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@peachacid:  +1

It’s one thing to hear someone from a different room but you had sex while she was in the room?! That’s pretty rude…

ETA: My ex and I ran into this issue in college. We would basically take turns in his room with his other room mates. Everyone knew what was going on when people had their “turn” but it was better than having to put up with people having sex while you were in the room.

Post # 16
8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013


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