Post # 1
I am posting this anonymously cause this is rather embarrasing.Well the title says it all.We are going along very well and we are both pretty outgoing so she was just cool with it and just laughed and made me feel ok.But I can’t help but feel kinda embarrased.The thing is we share a very little place and this is the first time I have a roomate in the dorms.Up till now it was ok cause neither of us brought someone.But now I understand that this is not going to be easy. Anybody had the same problem?I know this is very common but how can I handle it?
Post # 3
@notagain: You had sex while she was IN THE SAME ROOM? The solution is…don’t do that.
Post # 4
@peachacid: +1, unless you guys are into that.
Post # 5
@notagain: Did she hear you from outside or did you have sex while she was there in the same room?
Post # 6
You should not be having sex while your roommate is in the room. That is rude and disgusting. I had a roommate that used to do that to me. Once I found her underwear in my bed. If you don’t want people to think much of you, this is a start. I hope you don’t do it again. You should feel embarassed. Maybe then you won’t put someone in that position again. You should also really apologize to her for being so out of line.
Post # 7
What. In the same ROOM?! Yes, you should feel embarassed! You don’t do that!
If she was elsewhere and you were in the room and she heard you through the door, then don’t worry about it. But if it was the same room then WTF?!?!
Post # 9
DUDE. WTF were you thinking!?
You and your roommate need to talk about this. Not cool. Come up with a set of rules.
Post # 10
@notagain: I have been the roommate who could hear the sex multiple times. Honestly, when you move in with someone, you expect to hear a little bit of stuff occasionally. In the case of former roommates of mine, it was almost nightly and their boyfriends were practically living with us (and not paying a cent of rent money). I was annoyed, but we were in different rooms.
You shouldn’t be having sex with someone if your roommate is in the same room. I think that’s a huge breach of roommate etiquette. As unromantic as it sounds, it wouldn’t be hard to send a text saying “hey, _____ is coming over on ________day night for a little bit. Would you mind coming home an hour later that night?” She’ll get the hint. And if that night doesn’t work for her, you shouldn’t have the guy over.
Post # 11
I had a roommate in college that had sex on the bunk underneath me! I was so embarassed to say like, “Hey, can you stop?” that I just let it go on. But on a bunk bed you can FEEL EVERYTHING!!! So awkward. She also used to lock me out of the room when I went to take a shower so she could have sex with her boyfriend.
Post # 12
The title should really read, “My Roommate Can WATCH Me Having Sex”
…and that is just kooky right there…no way to unring that bell..
Next time shell out for a hotel room or something, geez
Post # 13
Yeah I’d just have a frank discussion with her. Maybe keep a calendar on the wall where you post upcoming dates for each other so the other person has an opportunity to make other plans. It happens a lot in dorms. Not a major problem but you do need to be very open and considerate so you don’t keep running into this embarrassing situation where you’re both in the room!
Post # 14
It’s one thing to hear someone from a different room but you had sex while she was in the room?! That’s pretty rude…
ETA: My ex and I ran into this issue in college. We would basically take turns in his room with his other room mates. Everyone knew what was going on when people had their “turn” but it was better than having to put up with people having sex while you were in the room.
Post # 15
@weatherbug: EWWW! Not cool!