(Closed) My Roxy is getting depressed and needy :(

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry she’s acting out… I have no advice but we do have three dogs and will be TTC this summer/fall.  I wanted to comment so I can come back and see what advice you get so we can be prepared as well! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My guess would be that by giving her attention whenever she demands it, you are actually making the problem worse, (sort of like cooing and baby talking during a thunderstorm reinforces the dog’s fear of it).  She is probably increasingly attracted to you because she can smell/sense the changes in your body, but giving in to her demands is a bad idea.  I would start her on NILIF to reinforce that she gets attention when YOU decide to give it to her, not when SHE decides she wants it.  I’m not pregnant yet, but since we’ve slacked off on the NILIF, my dog has gotten more clingy to the point of being annoying, (though not as bad as yours!!!  hehe), so we’re starting back on it.  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Animals can definitely sense hormone changes so it’s not surprising that she’s acting needy, however most people that I talk to their pets don’t do that until they are much later in their pregnancy. I would agree that by coddling her so much and especially waking up in the middle of the night for her is probably making the problem worse. You should maybe try to set some boundaries with her. Otherwise, ESPECIALLY when the baby comes, she’s going to have even more of a shock when she’s not number 1 whatsoever.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Aw, it’s so hard to say no to them!

But ITA wtih Apricot and MsJ2theZ. Dogs don’t know or understand sympathy as we do; they only know positive versus negative reinforcement. I would just ignore her antics when they’re not convenient, and praise her to high-hilt when you’re ready to give her attention and she responds appropriately.

I’d start with the bathroom. Close the door and listen to her cry, but be strong–she’s not hurt, she’s not starving, and she (shouldn’t) have to use the bathroom herself! You’re fine, she should be fine too. When she gets quiet, THEN open the door and come out. Don’t do it while she’s still whiny. And if she jumps all over you, just walk past her and wait until she’s calm to pet her again. Totally will tug at your heartstrings, but necessary. She’ll have to learn to be okay by herself more, especially since you will be absorbed in the new baby once it arrives!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MsJ2theZ:  definately second this. The more she is coddled and given fuss when SHE demands it,the more shocked when the baby comes and the bigger the adjustment will have to be for her. For a few days when your not giving her the attention she is demanding,she will act like it is the worst thing in the world,crying,climbing over you,etc. But once she has got used to the idea that she cant demand and be comforted every minute of the day,she will settle down and start to claim her independance back.

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