(Closed) My RUDE FAMILY! (long)

posted 12 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would YOU do?

    Nothing. Just leave it alone and maybe everyone will be nicer at Christmas.

    Next time, be more aggressive. Let them know your plans and don't wait for them to ask.

    See if Dad could ask his sister what was up with everyone?

    Other -- see below.

  • Post # 3
    2181 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Ugggh I’m so sorry you had to deal with this! I had major drama with my family too! πŸ™ I don’t really have any advice (goodness, I don’t even know what to do with my family), but I just wanted to let you know you’re not the only one!!! It’s terrible, isn’t it?

    Post # 4
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    πŸ™ I am SO sorry you have to deal with family drama such as this…

    this is exactly why I don’t even TALK to my mom’s family anymore (course she tries not to either).

    I know it’s weird…it’s like you want to say that their opinion doesn’t matter and that YOU are the one who knows what’s right for YOU but at the same time – like it or not, they are your family and there’s just something about that acceptance.

    in my own situation – I have already told my mother that I am not inviting anyone on her side of the family (she has 4 brothers and 2 sisters) but she keeps insisting I at least send an invite to one of my uncles and her one sister she does talk to (although I wish she wouldn’t as this aunt/mom’s sister has caused nothing but heartache and headaches for 50some years…)

    when her family heard I was even engaged I’m sure the rumors started flaring up “you mean she’s (me) NOT a lesbian????” yeah – my aunt that I just mentioned told everyone in the family I was for the longest time so they wouldn’t know SHE was…(not joking or being mean, really she is but is terrified to tell anyone so she instead told the family I was one). and that’s the NICE things they’ve done.

    so yeah – families can suck. I honestly know that the biggest thing – and maybe this is true for your family as well – I know that they’re just jealous of the fact that my mother actually A. kept her own marriage for 37 years strong now…B. both of her kids graduated from college, have awesome jobs AND got married and not just “knocked up”…I totally get your feelings towards (cousins?) who are screw-ups too and you feel “normal” – and the unfortunate thing is that because you DIDN’T screw up your life they feel better for coming down on you and making up rumors about you.

    I really don’t have any advice other than to just always be proud of who you are and what you’ve accomplished and that you’ve truly found someone who will love you.

    and ya know what? if being “normal” makes you the “freak” of the family – I say wear that title proudly! I know I do! I’d rather be the “freak” of my family ANY day than be anything like them. πŸ™‚ (not that i’m calling you a freak, i’m just using the word for emphasis) πŸ™‚

    btw – congrats on your engagement!!!!!! πŸ˜€

    Post # 5
    2316 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    *hugs* I am so, so, so sorry that happened. It’s not okay, and it’s certainly very rude. All of us in the hive are SO excited for you and I hope that makes you feel at least a little bit better.

    Post # 6
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    What a nightmare! I am no stranger to family drama either. I can’t believe they behaved so rudely! I second KMSull’s suggestion – be excited for your wedding with the rest of us on the ‘Bee and don’t let anyone bring you down.

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