Post # 1
By accident, this weekend my Boyfriend or Best Friend found out my secret – that I’m a “Waiting” member of Weddingbee! He picked up my iPad after I put it down to look at an article he wanted to show me…
Thankfully, though, he was a real sweetheart and listened patiently when I told him that just because it was essentially a wedding related site, it’s interesting to me because it’s filled with (lovely) people from all over the world, of all ages, in all kinds of relationships and at all stages of life.
I told him how we offer support, opinions and advice, as well as have a laugh with each other. Yes, there’s an interest in specific wedding activities (dresses, rings etc), but my interest in that is no more than any other of my female friends, until my time comes.
After I’d explained, he just looked at me and said “I love you”.
I’m so grateful that he didn’t make me feel bad and am so relieved that I can now read the threads and look at pictures openly, without feeling I have to hide it from him, as if it was something to be embarrassed about.
Has anyone else been ‘found out’?
Edit: This is my first own post – it feels good!
Post # 3
I didn’t know weddingbee had to be a secret! My Fiance knows about this site a long time ago…
Post # 4
@ukpussycat: I am so glad for you too! Yes, my SO knows about me being on this website as well. At first I was embarassed about having joined but I wanted to read it all the time (like even on my phone in the car! lol). So he asked me what I was doing one day, and so I told him. I even told him about the wating list. I think it kind of interested him and he asked me all about it, and pretty much did the same thing, kind of chuckled and told me he loved me. For most guys that aren’t terrified of getting married, I think they think it’s pretty cute 🙂
Post # 5
My SO knows about it, too, and he just laughed. He knows about my pinterest wedding board, too – and I’ve made sure to point him towards the engagement ring board. 😉
Post # 6
haha aww thats too cute, my Fiance knows im on this site and he just laughs that i post alot of things here.
Post # 7
Yep– before we were engaged. He was confused why I was on the site and then wondered if because I was on the site I got enough of my wedding fill and he got out of watching “Say Yes to the Dress”. He was disappointed that our Friday night show didn’t change.
The day we got engaged he was like “I guess you’re going to go spend a couple of hours on weddingbee now. I’ll be reading in the room”. He was cool with it.
Post # 8
I think I would keep it secret if I were waiting as well. I know guys can get a little freaked out and you dont want to make them feel anymore pressure than they already do. I am glad that you have been found out lol. No you can post a lot of your own posts 🙂
Post # 9
Haha I don’t even remember how it came up, but he knew about it a looong time ago! I was so excited when Taylor4 passed the torch as list keeper to me that I went and woke him up to tell him!! I have no shame.
Post # 10
@Roxanne: I suppose it feels more ‘appropriate’ when he’s an Fiance than a Boyfriend or Best Friend…
@cewalte: Thanks! That’s such a good point. It does depend on whether he’s a commitment phobe!
@discodance: Now that’s organised!
Post # 11
I kept it a secret while I was waiting, so don’t feel bad! I’m so happy for you that he was supportive–it sounds like you have a keeper 🙂
Post # 12
@lizarragad: that’s sweet.
@Pollywog: So he reads a lot these days…
@SaraP2012: It’s like coming out of hiding!
@MissBoPeep: He deserved to be woken for that news!
Post # 13
@yellowlace: Awh! Thanks for that! After his reaction, I think so too… Watch this space, eh!
Post # 14
When I told him I wanted to get married, I let slip about this website. He just laughed, hugged me, and told me I was crazy. I know I’m crazy, so it’s all good. It feels great that I don’t have to hide my laptop screen from him, now!
Post # 15
I’m a secret! I dont even log in at home! I just dont want him knowing that i am OBSESSED with his last step of final commitment! I’m a waiting bee, and it really really really helps to keep me from talking to him about marriage, you know, so he can do it on his own. It has also helped me from going completely insaine/questioning everything/building resentment toward him for not asking yet. I’ve gotten pretty depressed over a lot of things that should have happeend by now. But i’ve learned that everyone is on their own inner timeline, things happen for different people at different times in their lives. Iwas ready 6 months in, we’ve been together for four years total, i’ve been waiting for 3.5 years now :/ I want to thank all of you for sharing your stories!! When it happens, it will happen!
Thats awesome that so many SO’s/FI’s/DH’s were so supportive!!
Post # 16
I was a secret, until Fiance kept asking “what are you doing?” when I was typing away. “Looking at the internet” stopped being a plausible excuse haha. He doesn’t know my username though, and I refuse to give it. What if I have an embarrassing question to post?!
ETA – I am engaged and didn’t join the site until then (was a random lurker before), but I feel like we’re in an engaged-waiting period now, because we’re not planning anything for a looooong time 🙂