(Closed) My selfish Bridezilla persona finally appeared….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My fiance will be with me the night before the wedding finishing up preparations hopefully.  But when we were having our bigger wedding his brother told me how they were going to take him out all hours of the night the night before and get him drunker than he’s ever been.  Later we discussed him doing this a few days/weeks before the wedding (we live in a different city than they do) so he wouldn’t do this.  He didn’t seem to get it at first either but he agreed.  I don’t mind him having fun but I’m not all about him being tired and cranky on a day we’ve spent almost two years putting together (maybe that’s my bridezilla side coming out Smile).  So I get where you’re coming from.  And I’ve been there with the feeling left out and he didn’t really understand that either (it was when we first met almost five years ago but it really isn’t fun to be left out).  So I’ve experienced some of this before and luckily gotten it pretty resolved.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t know if it’ll help you but I promised him I’d do plenty of drinking with him on our Savannah minimoon.  This is also because I asked him not to get drunk at our reception dinner (and to talk to his brother about this too) because we’re not really doing dancing.  Are you doing an after party? I told him we could probably go change and do that too if we feel like it (our reception ends at about 9:30-10 though since there’s no dancing).

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think if it’s a Saturday the heavy drinking should take place on the Thursday. Thursday is usually party night, Friday is rehearsal dinner and relaxing/treating ourselves well. Every Saturday wedding I’ve been to has been like that! I know it sucks because that’s an extra night at the hotel, but I don’t think you’re being a Bridezilla. In fact, I think you should go along or have a Bridesmaid or Best Man or SOMEONE go along to drag him away. Seriously. Why can’t they go crazy at the reception dance party itself?

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My fiance’s best friend and one of his GM’s is coming all the way from CA to CT for the wedding. He’s coming in on Thursday (wedding is Saturday) So my FI’s bestman is now planning the bachelor party for after the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding! I lost it a little, but honestly that’s how it used to be back in the day and I am staying in a hotel the night before and he’s staying in our house, so I will never even know how many times he threw up. I figured the less I know the better.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@shelbifox15: first let me just say, i completely and totally agree with you!!  but i just wanted to mention that at my best friend’s wedding back in june, there were a lot of us who got tipsy at the rehearsal dinner and then my best friend and her about-to-be-husband invited everyone over to her brother-in-law’s house for more drinks…..everyone who went got trashed….i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and let me tell you, i woke up at 6am and felt horrible..and all i kept thinking was, omg, if i feel like this i can only imagine what my best friend and her hubby are feeling like! i started panicking……BUT when i got to her house where we were going to get ready everyone was fine as if no one had even gotten drunk the night before….i think everyone was so focused on the wedding and making sure everything was running smoothly that the drunken night beforehand didn’t even matter….and the wedding was absolutely beautiful!

now, i’m not trying to justify anything….just giving you an example and again, i would still be in your shoes saying the exact same thing!! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

pfft, just tell him that’s what the reception’s for – he needs to budge because you’re not asking a lot.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s totally not a Bridezilla moment! It’s completely understandable to not want your FI/DH hung over at your wedding! Just thought I would throw a little support your way :).

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is why we are not spending the night before the wedding together! lol I know that many of Fiance close friends will be here and ready to celebrate. He knows that he better not be hung over and looking all dark eyes on our wedding day. I’m leaving it up to him to behave and arrive @ the church on time!!! For me it will be better to be alone or with my girls and moms to focus and reminice and not worry about what Fiance and his buddies are doing. Because god only knows I would probably be annoyed with it becaue my mind would be elsewhere!! I say you should let him do his thing & have a nice relaxing night. Go to the hotel take a bubble bath; maybe even consider spending the night with your girls instead? Or at least take a bath and relax and just try not to dwell on it. Let him have his boy time & enjoy your last evening alone as a “single woman!”Even if it’s only for a few hours before he gets back.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I am dealing with the exact same thing. My Fiance wants to go out all night the night before our wedding with his buddies. This is a constant argument in our house. No resolution as of yet. So, you are not alone! And you are not a bridezilla!

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