Post # 1
Hello ladies (and gents)
Well I didn’t think I’d ever have to post a thread like this on the Bee but it has come as such a shock that I still can’t quite believe it’s happen d. I needed to get this out to try and help come to terms with it.
My hubby’s sister, who had Downs Syndrome, passed away in hospital on Saturday night from an infection that developed into pneumonia. We are in New Zealand while DHs family is in the U.K. Some of you may know we are heading back there in 4 weeks for our second wedding ceremony. We got a call at 2am Saturday night (so Friday afternoon UK time) to say she was not well and that the doctors didn’t think she was going to get through the next 24 hours. DH spoke to her briefly on the phone and she sounded very drugged up and happy which is a small comfort. 12 hours later we got the call to say she had passed.
I like to think that she went quickly and quietly and didn’t have much awareness of what was really going on. It’s just so surreal knowing she’s gone and won’t be there to greet us when we arrive next month….she was so looking forward to the wedding and Christmas (she had the mental capacity of about a 5 year old) and we had bought her Christmas presents to take back.
There were only 18 months between her and DH and she was just shy of her 40th birthday. She had lived her whole life with their parents, and really couldn’t have had it any better, they all treated her like a princess. She was such a sweetheart 😔
If I may ask you to keep us in your prayers tonight. DHs family are coping remarkably well (we face timed with them earlier) but it’ll be a huge adjustment for them without having her around anymore. We like to think that at least they have something positive to look forward to (us coming over and the wedding, in which my Mother-In-Law and I have almost singlehandedly made happen over email the last 18 months) and that we will be there with them for their first Christmas without DHS sister). He does have another sister who was very close to the other one and she is taking it pretty hard as well.
Thanks for reading.
Post # 2
I am so sorry to hear about your SIL, I will be praying for all of y’all in the coming months. I know there’s nothing I can say to make you feel better, but just know we’re all here for you. <3
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your and your family’s loss. Remember that everyone grieves differently and just be there for them, like you are, that’s all you can do. Hugs!
Post # 4
So sorry to hear this, bee — I’ll be keeping you all in my thoughts!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for you loss. *hugs*
Post # 6
So sorry 🙁 ((((Hugs)))) and prayers to you and your family.
Post # 7
I’m sorry to hear such terrible news. My thoughts and prayer will be with you and DH’s family x
Post # 8
I am so so sorry to hear that–I can’t even imagine the emotions you are dealing with. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
I’m very sorry for your loss bee. I hope it some comfort to your husband that he got to speak to her before she passed. Sounds like his family cared for her very well. I’m sure she wouldn’t have felt much pain as she passed. Thoughts are with you.
Post # 10
So sorry to hear your sad news. My mother used to teach special needs children, and the Downs Syndrome ones were always so happy, outgoing, and loving. They really are such bright sparks and bring so much joy to people’s lives. My mom used to say that she felt her students were such a gift in her life, because they taught her to live in the moment. I’m sure your SILs passing will leave a huge void in the family. Big hugs to you all, and I’ll say a prayer for you all.
Post # 11
I have never lost anyone very close to me so I cannot say I understand what you or your DH, at this very moment, are going through. I am so very sorry for your entire family. I cannot imagine the pain/sadness you are going through and pray, in Jesus’ name, that you all can experience an unearthly peace. I’m just so sorry 😔
Post # 12
Absolutely. I’m so sorry for you loss.
Post # 13
That is so terribly sad, I’m so sorry.
Post # 14
My goodness, this is the saddest news 🙁 how awful. Definitely thinking of you OP. Sending all the love in the world to you and your family.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I’m so sorry for your loss. (((Hugs)))