Post # 1
I have several SILs because I have several brothers. I adore one of them and love her as much as my own biological sister. The one I “hate” but try to keep the peace with is the subject of this rant. I do my best with her and try to be civil and even have convos with her.
As much as I dislike her, I can admit she has a banging body and has gotten herself into great shape. Sometimes she gives me great advice, other times she’s a total bitch (maybe she is bipolar). This was our text convo:
Me: What do you think of Jillian Michaels? I just ordered some videos.
SIL: Oh, thank god. Anything will be better than how you look now. What are you now, a size 12? I was worried about how fat you look lately!
Me = silent, fuming, getting ready to say something mean…
SIL: That didn’t come out how I meant it. Jillian Michaels is great…blah blah.
She went on to give me good advice, but I don’t even know why I even bother with this woman. She just has to get in little jabs at me all.the.time and it drives me nuts. I didn’t reply, I’m not going to, and now I am even more motivated to do my videos!
Also – no, I am not a size 12. But yes, I have ballooned up to a 10 :-
Post # 3
WOW!!!! That was super super rude! I would just brush it off, there’s only so much you can do with people like that. I guess you should direct those kinds of questions to another friend!
Post # 4
Yeah, I’d ignore her for a while!! That was rude.
Post # 5
Does this woman have no filter?! Jeeze, I’m so sorry you have someone like that in your life! It sounds like you take the high road with her, which I applaud. I probably would have said something suuuuuuper snarky back to her.
Post # 6
@MrsPanda99: wow. That’s not even a “jab”. That’s just a straight up sucker punch. She definitely meant to say what she said. Does your brother know his wife is a b*tch??
i have no idea what your full dimensions are but that’s not even the point. If you feel you need to loose some weight, good on your for getting the videos and working out .
if someone blatantly criticized me like that, I would go OFF. Kudos to you for being the bigger person. I couldn’have pulled that off.
Post # 8
yesterday, i had someone random tell me that i should lose 60 pounds before the wedding, and that they’d never be as fat as me at their wedding. yes, this was to my face. no, i didn’t know the person.
people have no manners anymore.
i’d just let it go. and like PP’s said, don’t talk to her about that stuff anymore.
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: What a witch!!! I’d text her back, “That’s okay. I’m fat and you’re ugly. Luckily, I can diet…”
(Not that you are remotely fat at that size! Heck I’d love to be your size!)
Then text her back that you’re sorry, it didn’t come out the way you meant it
Post # 10
@MrsPanda99: OMG it would take all my willpower not to knock her out the next time I saw her!!! If I were in your shoes, I’d most definitely have a chat with your brother and let him know you don’t appreciate the inappropriate comments his wife makes and let him know he needs to keep her on a leash when it comes to that sort of thing with you.
Post # 11
@MrsPanda99: Completely inappropriate. The only way I’d give her a pass is if she was genuinely concerned because you had gained a lot of weight in a very short amount of time.
Well, maybe not.. the whole “anything would be better than how you look now” is just ridiculous. That goes beyond just being blunt (which I can be guilty of) and runs right into the “mean girl” territory.
Post # 12
I’m a size 12. I say we sit on the skinny bitch and crush her
Post # 13
Yeah :- I guess I need to just give up with her. I never know which side of her I will get, so I need to stop hoping the nice girl will appear, lol.
And of course she will tell my brother that I’m overreacting and ignoring her, even though she is just “concerned.”
Oh, I want to say something. I have it all planned out in my head, lol. But it won’t get me anywhere with her, so screw it.
I have tried to tell him how she is, but he either does nothing or defends her (I think when he got married, he sacrificed his balls at the altar). You’re right though – I will just focus on me and doing what’s best and healthy 🙂 And maybe one day I can show her I am not fat! :-
That’s not even the worst thing she’s said to me, lol. I’m just hyper senstive about weight. I wish I wasn’t, but I am.
OMG. How could someone say that?? What did you say back? If this had of been in person, I know I would have said something nasty back to her. Text messages allow me to be calmer, lol. And yeah, she is no longer my weight loss expert 😛
Post # 14
The good news is you can tone up and diet to get in better shape. (BTW a 10 is by no means “fat”!)
Meanwhile, there’s no way to surgically implant a filter into her mouth, or a functional brain into her head.
How horrible…sorry you have to deal with her. *hugs!*
Post # 15
I can’t imagine she could have said worse! I definitely don’t think you’re being hyper sensitive (most people are sensitive about weight!) I would have freaking lost my shit if anyone said something so rude to me. It definitely wasn’t an oops that came out wrong comment. and it was via text?! You’ve got plenty of time to read and delete and re-write before pressing send.
Post # 16
Umm she is a bitch! I would have told her off regardless of her being my sister in law! Power to you for holding it in! She isnt bi-polar she is just a super bitch!