(Closed) My SIL tried to commit suicide and that pisses me off!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes, I don’t want to get into it (PM me if you want) but I had a really hard time getting past my anger when this happened in my family. It feels like an incredibly selfish act from the outside but you’ve hopefully never gotten to a point where you feel like death is the best option so its a very hard mindset to understand.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace: Absolutely.  A lot of people find it selfish for someone to want to kill theirself.  I work in a psychiatric hospital so I see it quite often.  It is a shame, but we always have to remember that they have a problem.  It’s a lot more serious than people can understand at times.  It’s also scary.  I’m incredibly sorry to hear that she’s going through rough times, but she will need support.  It will always be emotionally and mentally wearing on everyone else’s part as well.  Everyone just needs to stick together.  Will she be admitted into a behavioral center?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Of course it is, but I would watch what you say around her. She obviously needs help and support from her family

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

def have a right to feel angry, but don’t shut her out. you don’t know what it’s like to be there. and if her two kids can’t give her a reason to be alive you have no idea how broken her brain is. she’s sick

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yes. It’s normal to be angry, because while suicide is tragic, it also can seem very selfish, especially when children are involved. PM me if you ever need to talk as I have experience with this. And don’t express your anger, it won’t help anything right now. Imagine getting to the point where you wake up every day wishing you hadn’t. She’s very ill.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace: Hopefully the right medications will be adjusted for her.  It’s a tough time of the year too.  A lot of people are more prone to commit suicide or completely lose it during the holidays.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace: I’m so sorry this is happening. It is completely normal to feel angry, suicide can feel like a very selfish act. Just remember that most of the time the person believes they have no way out and are suffering so much. Try to be understanding and let her know you are there for her. I hope everything works out.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Some anger is normal, but as long as you recognize that her depression leads to irrational decisions. It can be hard to live with depressin either as the person who has it or someone close to them. My friends bf killed himself last year and left behind 2 children. It is devastating to the family but he had a chemical imbalance and was off and on meds. No one is to blame. It can be hard to step back and look at it from a less emotional point of view.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with PPs, you can’t control how you feel and if you’re upset or angry about it, then that’s how you feel. I also agree that you should be careful what you say about it, since after dealing with depression myself… she probably feels that her kids will be much better off without her, and isn’t thinking about it in a selfish way. I hope your family can work through things together.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I agree with @galloway111: that you cannot help the way that you feel but please do not share this with anyone. After suffering from depression for my entire life and having attempted suicide it is something that people will never understand unless they have been there. It is the lowest form of low and you cannot just “get over it” and you also don’t rationalize things the same way a person without depression would.

I will admit it’s extremely hurtful to hear that you are angry with your SIL over this as she CANNOT control her depression. Idk whether she is medicated or not but even those don’t always help. It is a lifelong struggle and unless you have truly felt like ending your life please try not to judge her for feeling that way.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

@MsBrooklynA: +1 thank you for writing this response. Honestly the title of this post pissed me off so much and I couldn’t bring myself to reply.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

People have to remember, it’s so hard to imagine this even being an option if you haven’t been there yourself. Anger is actually a pretty common reaction to have.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

@KatyElle: I know anger is a very common and understandable emotion when someone loses someone to suicide. But this post completely lacks compassion to go along with that, and that makes me angry.

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