- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
My sister and her bf have been dating for about a year. When they first stated dating she fully said “I finally found someone who is just as needy as me!”. This is her first boyfriend (she is in her early 20s) and I understand that everyone has their honeymoon phase. We have all been there. But how her and her bf act is starting to piss me off because their behaviour is the talk of the family.
Let me get into details:
– When watching tv with OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS INCLUDING MY FATHER, they are all over each other. He’s going under her shirt to rub her stomach, they’re playing footsies, they whisper to each other so no one else can hear their convos, she makes annoying sounds that sounds like a crying puppy, and they’re always kissing. Oh, its a commerical? Kiss. The show is back on? Kiss. You sneezed? Kiss. You need to go to the bathroom? Kiss. (Actually that one was false because they dont use the washroom when they’re around each other)
– When at dinner, he rubs her leg and they hold hands. My sister has learned how to eat with her left hand so they can be holding each others hand at dinner. Like. Stop. Im eating and I dont want to see your bf rubbing your leg. Can you keep your hands off each other for 5 mins to frickin eat?!?!
– When in public (ie. a bar) they isolate themselves and they wont join the rest of the group. God forbid someone goes up to her bf to start a convo. Not happening. She needs to be ALL OVER HIM. I’ve tried to get to know him more, but my sister makes it very hard. She always interrupts the convo and changes the topic and then we stop talking.
– It was my baby sisters sweet sixteen. We were at a restaurant, and there were two long tables. My grandparents, aunt and my godparents (the people who baptised us) were facing my sister and her bf (they had their backs towards them). I was sitting beside my sister and all of a sudden I noticed that her bf had put his hand down the back of her shirt and started to massage her. He was then touching her neck, playing with her hair, and she was rubbing his leg. I dont know about you guys, but I find this HIGHLY inappropriate. I turned around to see my family and they had looks of disgust on their faces.
We have spoken to my sister MANY times. She doesnt care. She just says, “What, we like each other! We arent allowed to touch each other?” To be quite frank, NO. NOT in PUBLIC. I dont mind PDA, as long as it respects those around you. Holding hands, a peck on the cheek, thats fine. This brings up concern for my wedding. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I REALLYYYYYYYYY dont want her to be all over him once the dancing begins. I feel – actually no – I KNOW she will embarrass me and my family with her excessive PDA. My cousins and I have already stopped inviting her out because they are just too much. Her best friend stopped going on double dates with her because she feels too uncomfortable.
“Try talking to her”, been there. Done that. Hasnt worked. She does her own thing and she has absolutely ZERO regard for anyone (family, friends, elders, ect) and with her temprament, we walk on egg shells when shes around. At this point, how do I (or my parents) go about this? We need it to stop.