(Closed) My sister and her husband might not be coming to my wedding (rant/vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t feel it’s silly that I feel hurt that my only sister, after I’ve bent over backwards over the years to help her, doesn’t feel the need to make an effort. <— for this, I feel your pain. I have no advice to offer, but I feel your pain.

 

 

Post # 4
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@claireos:  You can always “not afford” to go to her 2013 wedding, and see how she likes it. Of course I’m kidding… or am I? ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

I understand your frustration. Maybe having a chat with your sister about how important the effort is, it might help? 

Post # 5
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That was a lovely and well qualified rant.  That brutally sucks.  Why are people so self centered?  Man, I feel for your folks too.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 6
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1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ugh!!

What a mess.

I feel for you…

I would take your mom aside and (calmly) tell her how you feel. Let her know you are hurt.

It may not resolve anything but at least YOU get to be honest about how you feel and I think you might need that.

Best of luck!

Post # 7
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2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ugh, this makes me so upset.  Your parents won’t even offer to fly her?  They shouldn’t have to even offer because she should have her stuff together.  How can your sister be perfectly okay with not attending your wedding?  =(  That’s complete bs. I’d be really upset too.  So sorry she’s being like this.  Have you talked to your mom about how you feel?

Post # 8
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

So frustrating, and I completely understand!!

I think the only thing you can do is just not have expectations for certain people in your life.  Even if it is your family.  You just have to say, you know what these people kind of suck and I don’t expect anything from them.

I feel like you can’t control other people’s actions, you can only control how it affects you, ya know?  Try to hang in there and just focus on the positive!

Post # 9
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is not silly. It sounds like she is always the focus, and always needs some sort of help. This is your day to shine, and she is flaking out already. I’m sorry to say, but I agree with Ashley- some people suck, regardless of your relation to them. They are selfish, self centered individuals and we cannot control them. Low expectations/no expectations are never dissapointments.

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