(Closed) My sister drives me crazy!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m sorry, but you really can’t cut your sister. Imagine the kind of drama that it would bring. Consider her an honorary position, and don’t expect her to help – if you don’t expect it, she can’t disappoint.

Post # 4
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I know it can be tough to have bridesmaids who aren’t super excited about every detail of the wedding, but some people are just like that. It sounds like it means a lot to your sister to be in your wedding, even if she doesn’t seem to act like it.

I wouldn’t cut her out of your wedding at this point – it’s still plenty far away and it’s early in the planning process. If you cut her out, you’ll be dealing with a whole year of drama and emotions and family arguments over cutting her.

Post # 5
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Unfortunately I think you should keep her in your wedding party.  I would sit down with her and ask her if there’s anything that she needs to get off her chest about your wedding and address your concerns with her.  Take the sandwich approach, compliment, criticism, compliment…..start and end on high notes.

Post # 7
1910 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If she didn’t want to be in the wedding, you gave her a respectable “out” by using the baby as a reason why she didn’t need to be in the wedding. She clearly *does* want to be in the wedding, otherwise she would have taken that opportunity to jump ship. I think you are confusing caring about the details of the wedding with actually wanting to stand up for you on your big day. All that bridesmaids (even sisters) are expected to do is put on a matching dress of your choosing and stand next to you as you and Fiance say your vows. They don’t have to care about the color of the linens or what DJ you pick. If they do care about those things, GREAT! But if not, it doesn’t mean they don’t care to be in the wedding. I think you should cut your sister some slack, just accept that she isn’t into the wedding details, and just tell her what dress to buy and leave it at that.  

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