(Closed) My sister insists on wearing a white dress

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It will look awkward for her, not you… 

That’s pretty inconsiderate though!

Although I’m a bit nuttier, and I’d probably threaten to refuse my sibling entry to my wedding in all white. (Haha, don’t take that advice…)

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Kick her. If she has so many clothes, she can find something else to wear.

Sisters…. I swear….

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell your sister to call your nephew and his Fiance to run her idea by them.  There are a few brides who don’t care if a guest wears white, but I sense that majority of them would flip out or at the very least get seriously annoyed. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I can remember each of the weddings I’ve been to the past five years when someone wore white, because the other ladies (self included) were rather catty about “doesn’t she know not to wear white to a wedding!”

Since your sister is wearing cotton (vs. a silk strapless, which I’ve also seen, and people thought it was a double wedding), no one’s going to confuse her with the bride, but she really should wear something else.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Someone can argue that “no-one will mistake her for the bride” until they’re blue in the face but I will NEVER support wedding guests wearing white or ivory. There’s just no reason for it. There are hundreds of other colors to choose from, pick something else. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@the_future_mrs:  It IS inconsiderate!  But I agree, she’ll the one who will be awkward.  Really, for ONE day, you can’t pick another color?  You said it’s cotton, though- at least it doesn’t sound “bridal” to me.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It might be a good idea to ask your nephew to see what his Fiance would think.  I don’t really think the wearing white is that big of a deal as long as you aren’t wearing a white ballgown, no one will confuse you for the bride (not that I would actually do it for fear of stoning though).

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Well, Kate Middleton’s sister wore white… (but she’s royalty so she can do anything) but since this is your wedding and your sister, I would insist she doesn’t wear white to your wedding! Come on, have some respect for the bride.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsSaltWaterTaffy:  LOL at fear of stoning! (But really, no, don’t wear white.)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@happyface:  Kate’s sister wore white… and upstaged the bride quite a bit!!  Pippa’s dress is more popular than Kate’s!  That example supports why people shouldn’t wear white to a wedding.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@UpstateCait: This.

OP: How annoying. Maybe try and talk to her more calmly?

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is when you use your tattle tale card. lol I mean it. Obviously she won’t listen to you but maybe she’ll listen to someone with more ‘wisdom’ (in her eyes at least). My brother gets like that about a lot of things.. not exactly wearing a white dress to a wedding situation but he just doesn’t know much and when I try to explain he gets stubborn. IMO I don’t think white dresses belong at a wedding unless you’re a bride… it doesn’t matter if its cotton or short or whatever…

Edit: when I say tattle tale… i mean tell you parents or someone she ‘respects’ DO NOT bring it up with the bride. like other posters have said she has enough to deal with.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you already told your sister that it’s bad etiquette to wear white to a wedding, then I think you’ve done your job.  Now it’s between her and the bride.  I would stay out of it.

If you can’t handle that, then flip it to the mother of the groom.  (I presume that is either your sister or SIL?)  Let her deal with it.

Do not dump this on the bride.  She has enough to worry about.  It is very awkward to tell someone what to wear, especially your fiancé’s aunt who you barely know.

I had this issue with my Mother-In-Law.  She wanted to wear a white dress (and insisted it was cream).  It was also really ugly.  So, I took her shopping and we found her a beautiful navy dress.  But I know her pretty well, and we still treated her original dress like a backup as opposed to banning it entirely.  She looked amazing in the navy dress, and my husband was really grateful that I took her shopping because he wanted her to look good!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

She sounds rude and the dress sounds kind of casual unless it’s a really laid back wedding. I know people get up in arms about it and I would never do it at a friends or american wedding. I already know and expected several ladies to show up wearing white to my wedding, but it’s because of my Dad’s culture, they don’t wear dark or mourning colors, so no red, purple, black, gray. That does’t seem to be the case for your sister

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