Post # 1
without telling anyone. I got married last Saturday and my sister (my MOH) and I were waiting in the church basement for the ceremony to start when guess who comes in. My whole family DESPISES the guy. He introduced my sister to cocaine (she is now an addict) and has physically abused her. We have called the cops on him before but nothing ever comes of it. My sister keeps going back to him. So he comes into the church tells me how beautiful I look, gag me, etc right before I walk down the aisle! I was livid. She never told anyone she was bringing a guest and then she just expected us to put him at a table for dinner too. It was a $255 per person reception dinner!
I told our wedding planner I wanted him gone, but my parents caved and decided to let him stay as long as he wasn’t causing trouble because they didn’t want to cause a scene. Husband decided to seat him furthest away from the head table with 7 other people he didn’t know. He basically just stayed to eat dinner and then left. And we spent almost $300 feeding that bastard. I am still upset that my sister got her way (he stayed) and didn’t even get in trouble for doing it.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you had this happen to you on your wedding day.
If your sister and her boyfriend are both using cocaine, you can expect much worse behavior in the future.Addicts will do whatever they have to do to get their drug of choice, including lying, cheating and stealing.
Make a choice not to let her behavior push your buttons or ruin anything for you.
Post # 4
I think the Bridal Party members should always be allowed the bring a guest without and restrictions, but the fact that she didn’t tell you is aweful!!! I hope your wedding was perfect otherwise!
Post # 5
Did your sister act all guilty about it, or did she try to apologize? I would’ve been so pissed as well, but thankfully he didn’t cause a scene at your wedding. Eeeek, what a totally uncomfortable situation. I hope your sister comes to her senses soon and gets the help she needs.
Post # 6
Yikes. I second what @julies1949 said–make the choice not to let it bug you. I’m sorry this happened, though. That really sucks. 🙁
Post # 7
Are this guy and your sister in a serious relationship? If so, I don’t think you can really expect to exclude him, and she probably just assumed he was invited. I really feel for you though, I am in a similar situation, and I’m trying to figure out how to exclude this dude, but I can’t figure it out.
Don’t let it bother you. It’s over, you’re married, that’s all that matters 🙂
Post # 8
There’s a reason she didn’t tell you beforehand. She didn’t just “assume” he was invited. She knew no one would want him there. She played you and your family like a violin. Especially your parents. Drug addicts know exactly how to manipulate the people around them. I know that you really despise this guy, but it doesn’t sound like your sister is a very good person either.