My sister is a terrible mother.

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1858 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Arent you in love with someone else and maybe leaving your fiancé? I wouldn’t rush into adopting someone else’s child when you don’t have your own shit together 🙄

Post # 3
1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Considering that you mentioned in another post that you are thinking of leaving your fiance it’s probably not a good time to bring another child into the mix.  You don’t know how your living situation is going to change in the near future.  Are there any community resources that could be activated to provide training and support to your sister, or to intervene if the child’s safety is at risk?  That would probably be a better option right now.

Post # 5
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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thumperbear :  seriously. 

My advice is to mind ya business.

Post # 6
3271 posts
Sugar bee

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crystal0989 :  Not really an “lol” situation …

Post # 7
11346 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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crystal0989 :  

It is not a simple matter to just ‘adopt’ someone else’s baby unless she agrees to it because you think she’s unfit. Speak to a qualified attorney and be prepared to spend many thousands as well as jump through a lot of legal hoops.

Nothing you say is going to suddenly ‘knock some sense’ into your sister.  

Is she an addict?  Is she endangering the baby?

Post # 8
2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Good idea steal the baby and then leave your Fiance for another man 

Post # 10
4 posts
  • Wedding: January 2018

I think your hearts in the right place and I definitely think you should call CPS but you are not in a place to adopt a baby 

Post # 11
251 posts
Helper bee

I think if the baby’s safety is actually in danger, that trumps everything else that may be going on (I haven’t read any of your other posts.) if she is really endangering the baby, not feeding her, etc, you need to call cps. I know that seems harsh, but that’s really the only thing you can do. I don’t think talking to her would really help. People are very defensive when their parenting skills are questioned (understandably so.) Cps would likely let you or another family member have temporary custody at that point. 

If it’s just a situation where she’s just not as hands on or attentive as you think you should be, that’s probably a mind your own business scenario. 

Post # 12
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Is this person a troll? Seems to be a lot of drama.

Post # 13
1295 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

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Innerdonught :  this, also make sure to LOL about it lots

Post # 14
574 posts
Busy bee

Didn’t you start a post being upset that your Mother-In-Law is interfering with how you raise your kids? I’m not meaning to bring that up to be harsh but just to say that no one likes to be told how to raise their kids, as you pointed out yourself. Unless her child is in any danger be very careful with how you approach this. Suggesting to adopt her baby is not the way to go, neither is it supportive to your sister. Is it just you who is concerned? Have you spoken to another trusted family member about this, like your parents? What do they suggest?

Post # 15
4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I think your Mother-In-Law should just take all 5 kids so sister can go party and you can run off into fantasy land with your new man. Gawd. I hope this is all fake and not truly the flaming train of bad life choices you’ve been describing. All those poor kids 😕

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