Post # 1
My little sister is a royal pain in the rear! She has challenged and tested me every step of the way, she is combative and argumentative and when ignored she throws in a ton of sarcasm. Well today she pushed me over the edge 2 1/2 weeks from my wedding day… I finally told her if you can’t be supportative please get off this train (I didnt use pleasantries either ). Am I the only one that is be tested? Do people think it is cute to make a bride stress, cry, unhinge? I tried so hard for so long and I am just done….Just tooooo much.
Well needless to say I am one bridesmaid short and having to deal with a P**sed off mother. an extra groomsman that has already spent is hard earned money…
Any advice? Oh apologizing is not an option! Without tooting my own horn, I am the most accomodating, level minded bride you will ever meet. I was pushed so I pushed back.
Post # 3
Do you mind sharing what she did to push you over the edge? (You don’t have to, only if you want to).
I guess I want you to make sure you are doing the right thing and won’t regret leaving your sister out. Many years from now, do you think you will regret it?
Post # 4
What did she say/do? Why is the groomsmen pissed? Is it her boyfriend? Does your mother know how she has been acting?
Post # 5
having uneven sides is not the end of the world! Don’t make your extra groomsman step down, and it’s fine to not get another bridesmaid!
but…in other news. gosh, that totally stinks. 🙁 so sorry to hear about that. I hope that you are somehow able to mend it with your sister! (maybe she comes around to her senses?)
Post # 6
Gosh Im so sorry! Maybe its a bit of jealousy on her part? Sad how ugly she’s presented it! ((hugs))
I am having a similar ssue with a cousin of mine who was my Maid/Matron of Honor. We are the only two girl cousins on my mom’s (tiny/small) side of the family so it was always expected that we get along and “play nice.” But our mother’s are VERY different. Mine is Conservative Christian, my Aunt Hippie-Agnostic? I dont know. I was taught to conduct myself with the utmost respect, and the same goes for my peers/elders/etc. Was always taught manners. My cousin on the other hand, curses (not that I dont on ocassion, I just know the time and place) more than a sailor and usually considers everyone “rude, stupid, an idiot, etc”. But my cousin finally pushed me over the edge by publically attempting to humiliate me in a DB store. I still contained my composure and walked away, but then once I was ready to discuss the situation she quickly dismissed herself from the wedding party. So I’ve lost BOTH my matron and maid of honor, both being cousins from opp. sides of the family.
Ive come to the conclusion thats its hard for some family to accept another’s getting attention, esp. when the person getting married isn’t one to usually ENJOY the spotlight/attention and their selfish asses being able to organize and accept those feelings in the appropriate/mature manner. Keep your sass and your class girl and be proud that you stood up for yourself; I sure am glad I finally did!
I wont lie, I still struggle with the disappointment and hurt that they will no longer want or will be apart of my wedding. I guess I always had a facade about our relationship and thinking how “close and connected” we were, but in all actuality, we arent at all! Sadly I know this is just a part of growing up and seeing who’s really there for you and who’s there for the attention/bitch fest.
Keep pressing forward and dont let other’s detour you from doing whats best for you! Sorry for emo-vomitting on your thread about my own crapfest of a story! lol
Post # 7
@ Just squeeze and Miss Tattoo it is really a question of What has she not done, it is silly nit picking childish stuff, i assume to derail my plan of staying composed. She is combative and sarcastic and drops the F bomb when asked to cooperate.
@ CupcakeMeg we are kindred brides, I am from a small family, always the last one to get attention because I am the oldest girl I think – I am more like their mom than sister (3 years apart). I truly believe it is about the attention and jealously. How do you propose I incorporate the odd groomsman? I am so broken hearted right now I’ve been crying all day because I rarely ask them to do anything and this is really important to me (as I am sure you can imagine) My girlfriends have been such troopers and supportative.
Thanks to everyone for the encouragment I truly need it
Post # 8
@stace2525: Oh girl! ((Hugs)) I feel you I feel you! You will get through this!
Groomsmen dont walk down the aisle right, unless your doing so. So I wouldnt worry about that. But you could put two guys with the last girl?! So the girl would have two escorts or could the extra groomsmen walk the flower girl back up the aisle?
Post # 9
@CupCakeMeg: I have my groomsmen escorting the Bridesmaid or Best Man therefore, I’ll be one short but I like the idea of the double escort, that may just work out perfect. Feeling betting already – Thank you