Post # 1
The issue is my sister. She is litterally trying to ruin my day. My fiance and I planned our wedding and had everything done from the hall to the favors before he left for Iraq. As soon as he left my sister who has been off and on (off at the time we got an engaged and planned our wedding) with her fiancee decided she wanted to get married before us. Not only did she plan it 7 weeks before us she also booked the same hall and picked the same cake among other things such as picking almost the same exact wedding dress. Besides this being a problem they are planning on getting pregnent right away which knowing my luck she’ll annouce it at my wedding. I’m pissed of. My mom doesn’t think its a big deal and that siblings get married at the same hall and close to the same time often. I feel like my sister just had to make sure her baby sister didn’t do something before her. I’m hurt and pissed and I believe I should be allowed to be. Its hard for me to be happy for her when she honestly “hates” her fiancee and cries about him all the time. Its a messed up situation and I don’t know what I should do. I really can’t switch anything because everything is done including our invitations. I’m stuck and this situation is seriously tearing about my relationship (the one I had) with my sister. When I’ve tried talking to her about it she says its not all about me and I incovienced her by planning our wedding first. Mind again they weren’t together when I got engaged. She was living in a condo by herself and they weren’t talking. What do I do? I don’t want our guest who are coming to both weddings think I’m a copy cat when I planned everything first. Please help me!!
Post # 3
Family situations suck. Your mom’s probably right that many sisters do choose the same hall, but the same hall, cake and a similar dress definitely sounds like she’s well…unoriginal at best. If I were you, I would do a ton of DIY projects that will make your wedding stand out from hers and show that you put a ton of love into your wedding.
Post # 4
Wow sounds like your sister is jealoussssss! I hate to say it but the similarities in your cake and dress, sound like she’s trying to make it look like your trying to be like “big sis”. I agree with jo.lee and you should do tons of DIY projects, to make it stand apart from your sisters. (make sure you don’t tell her about them!).
It seems like you’re getting married for the right reasons while your sis is getting married just to beat you, because the older sister is supposed to be married and have kids first. (recipe for disaster, if you ask me!)
Don’t let it ruin your day, It’ll be great and it’ll be YOURS. (as for her announcing her pregnancy if it does happen, you could always be the one to announce it and kind of take the initial spotlight away from her, haha). 😉
Post # 5
I think what’s done is done as far as the dates go but there are plenty of ways to still make the your wedding day stand apart from your sisters.
First off, try to let this go (I know it’s annoying but it’s the only way you are going to be able to enjoy your planning process). Next, just don’t share the rest of your ideas with her. If she’s taken your hall, your cake and your dress- don’t share with her about your hair, your first song, or any other little things that you were excited about. If she asks you why not, you can politely say that you just want your days to be as unique as possible.
I agree with the PP – start some DIY projects focused around you and your FI- start thinking about something that you like as a couple and start a theme based off that idea- do you guys have a favorite song, movie, season?
Also just try and remember that even if she copies EVERYTHING you do, down to the color you paint your toenails, at the end of the day you will be married to your love.