Member- jillbean1217
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
…and it is NOT a good thing. <br />She just turned 19 in October, she still lives at home with my mom, though her boyfriend spends the night there a few nights a week. I hated her boyfriend before all of this started, because he treated her like garbage when they first started dating (ditched her for some girl he met at a concert and tried to lead them both on for months). They also had a dometic violence incident last year.
They’ve only really been together this time since July.
I’m just so furious at her right now. I know what’s done is done and there is no turning back the clock, but I know that people (including myself) tried to talk to her about birth control on at least five separate occasions. Preventing a baby isn’t that hard.
My mom is about to be 57 and single and currently has custody of my cousin’s two kids who are sixteen months and three and a half while my cousin is in rehab and her baby daddy is in jail. The absolute very last thing she needed was to have this thrown on her plate too.
On top of that I seriously hate my sister’s boyfriend and I doubt he is going to be in it for the long haul. They are really just toxic for each other. He talks to other girls all the time, they fight about everything and when they aren’t fighting, they’re seeing how much PDA they can get away with. It’s so fucking frustrating.
I’m worried for my mom, and my sister and there is a little part of me (like, .02 percent) that is just mad that all of this is happening less than a month after Fiance and I got engaged. I waited until I was 30, you know? I just felt like I deserved to have this time, especially with my mom and my sisters. I’m 10 years older than both of them, so I just always expected to be the first to do everything.
My sister is notorious for needing to be the center of attention and her stupid BF actually tried to get his ex-GF knocked up when he was 17 and she was 15. So I wouldn’t be surprised if this wasn’t completely an accident. From what I understand, my sister and her BF weren’t doing anything to prevent pregnancy. It’s not like this was some sort of oops.
I know some shade’s going to get thrown my way, but I really just needed to throw a pity party for a minute, because man, this whole thing sucks. Especially for her. And my mom. Some 19 year olds are mature and emotionally stable enough for children at that time in their life. She is definitely NOT one of them.
For what it’s worth, I tried my very hardest to be as supportive as possible when she told me, although it was probably clear I wasn’t very impressed.
